Yasi's Place

2010-06-28T16:32:00.010-04:00

Family Photos

My best friend and I...

My Mom! Doesn't she look great?

Our sweet little brand new addition. My niece.

Last weight recorded: 204
Pounds lost: -5
New weight recorded: 199

2010-05-29T00:17:00.007-04:00

Powerwalker

Hey gang,

So that's me, a few weeks ago, after having crossed the finish line at A.I.D.S. Walk NYC. All of my friends bailed (or were otherwise indisposed), so I ended up hoofing the 6.3 Miles (10K) for charity alone this year--but hey, I still had a blast. Boy, were my feet sore afterwards! I think it's time to invest in some new sneakers.

I haven't given up on the half-marathon goal. Not quite there yet physically, but I'm working on my running (endurance, speed--lol--hence the need for new sneakers). ;)

Speed wise, I can cut a mile in a little under 9 minutes. Distance wise, I can jog for about 20 minutes straight before I need to slow to a walk.

20 minutes is not exactly where I wanted to be by now, but I'm still on track. I had to cut my running schedule down to 1-2 days a week, and replace the treadmill with the elliptical trainer, because of the havoc running was playing on my hips, knees and feet! Once I can manage to run for 30 minutes without a break I think I'll be on my way to some serious training.

Last weight recorded: 209
Pounds lost: 5
New weight recorded: 204 - Yay, almost under 200. ;)

2010-04-08T22:08:00.008-04:00

Rompers for Big Gals: Fab or Fail?

I haven't worn a romper since I was 12 years old, so naturally I had to question whether this new trend was legit or the illegitimate brain child of a bottle of scotch and one too many episodes of Sesame Street. I was more than skeptical, but I gave it a whirl anyhow. I grabbed a cute denim number off the rack at a nearby Tj Maxx, and dragged it back to the fitting room determined to make it work.

Well, it's on, but I'm still on the fence. The Romper is quite cute, and if you're into comfort (which I totally am by the way) it's pretty roomy, but it's not exactly the most flattering style for a thick chick. The one I'm wearing in the pic is courtesy of Calvin Klein. I had no idea you could get a pair of Calvin's in a size 14, but alas, they were there. Calvin's or not however, I'm not sure if I like what the romper does to the waist (or the legs for that matter). Like many thick gals, I have drumstick legs. Long, meaty, drumstick legs. Not bad, but still, not exactly the type of legs that look good in short, shorts! So my recommendation? If you have no waist line (or want to display one), this style will not help you.

Jiggly sisters: Please stay away. Go for a capri version that offers a little more coverage on the leg. Solid sisters: Please proceed, but with exteme caution. ;)

2010-04-06T23:08:00.007-04:00

Pressure

Wow, last week was pretty challenging for me. Try trying to stay away from whole Chocolate bars, Fried Chicken, Pizza, full fat Ice Cream and anything else not tied down during your time of the month. Not an easy feat, let me tell you. I ate all of my Weight Watchers Daily Points, Weekly Points and every last one of my blessed Activity Points this week (something I rarely do). Luckily, my health improved, so I was able to gradually return to my regular exercise routine. I managed to add a lot of short walks too, so I think that helped buffer the blow. I'm still keeping my fingers crossed however, as I have yet to see if I survived Easter Sunday. I'm hoping that I won't see any increases on the scale along with the other four pounds of water weight I gained this week-- over the course of three days no less (as any girl knows, "Flo" tends to bring 2-5 pounds of extra baggage with her when she comes). Ah, to be bloated, crampy and crabby. My feet felt like hamburger in my shoes all week!

Last weight recorded: 217
Pounds lost: -4.4
New weight recorded: 212.6

2010-03-23T15:38:00.014-04:00

Fun Finds For Your Spring Closet...

Feathers are the thing this year, but PLEASE don't go crazy!
I love how this one was added as accent. Not overpowering at all, but still makes a bold statement.

Peacock Feather Cardigan - $19.80 - Faith21 - forever21.com

Every fashionable girl knows that a wardrobe is never complete without a really fabulous pair of jeans that accentuate all the right angles!

I love the color of this distressed pair, but some women may find that a darker wash is more slimming. Whatever your preference, be sure to pick a pair the skims the body, is not too tight and not too loose. The right jean should hug the bottom--not choke it, fall on or just slightly above the hip (unless you are 15, please avoid the lower riders), and elongate the leg. A little distress is fine, but too much bleaching or patchiness interrupts the flow of the eye, and will make you look wider. If you need more backside, get a jean that has alot of pocket detail on the rear. If you're attempting to downplay your blessed bootieliciousness, go with a jean that minimizes the pocket or eliminates it all together.

Daring Distressed Jean - $24.99 - alight.com

If you're the slightest bit daring and have a little bit a leg power, you might want to add a mini dress to your arsenal. This one provides a perfect a mount of drape to hide flabby arms and fuller tummies and is well worth the money.

Roxie Beaded V-Neck Batwing Plus Size Dress in Ivory - $175 -MonifC.com

2010-03-23T14:04:00.008-04:00

Cute & Affordable Spring Accessories that EVERYONE can wear...

My pick!

Stone Embellished Platform Sandals - $42 - charlotterusse.com

Doodle Umbrella - $5.50 - Forever21.com

Multi Plaid Oblong Scarf - $8.50 - Wet Seal

2010-03-23T13:29:00.011-04:00

Progress Photos - March 2010 (-103 pounds)

Yep, that's your friendly blogger, trying on dresses in NYC at Macy's famous flagship store in Herald Square. You can't tell from these photos, but I've been sick for a few days now with a miserable cough/fever combo. I've missed a few cardio sessions as a result, but good news... I'm still losing weight! Not sure how. My appetite has not disappeared at all. In fact, the meds I'm taking actually stimulate appetite. I still manage to do a bit of my weight training routine from bed, and I do get out for the occasional walk, but other than that, no real cardio. It's not often that one drops 2 pounds after eating a steak & cheese sub slathered in mayo, a bucket of chicken noodle soup, and three 32 ounce Gatorades. So hey, I'll take it!

The black and white paisley print was a roomy size 12 (misses) and the black jewel neck number was a size 14. I still need to do a lot of work to fit into that size 12 (as you can see, I've still got a that pesky back fat and gut thing going on in the profile photo above), but this is a good sign that I might be able to fit into the bikini I bought just in time to kick off the summer season.

135 here I come. Only 82 more pounds to go now!

Last weight recorded: 219
Pounds lost: -2
New weight recorded: 217

2010-03-14T03:27:00.011-04:00

Lingerie for big gals: Some of my faves...

Who would have guessed that the folks at Lane Bryant carried bras
is beautiful as this? Kinda pricey, but well worth the money for a unique look in a large cup. My favorite color and super sexy!

Pleated Bandau Bra -Lane Bryant- $42

This is simply one of the cutest lingerie looks out there.
Quite comfortable for a bustier, and the polka dot thing is so fun!

Paulina Polkadot Bustier Set - The Burlesque Lingerie Company - $42.99

I've always loved H&C's eclectic assortment of plus size lingerie, and this very grown-up version of the filly panty makes me feel a bit flirty.

Rhumba Panty with Garters - Hips & Curves - $24.95

2010-03-14T01:42:00.017-05:00

A Tale of two Yasi's in family photos...

A still very large (but losing) version of me in June 09....

This one is of me today (well, two weeks ago) -- 101 Pounds down and counting (March 2010)!

Accomplishments: Slipped into a pants size 14 (albeit snuggly), and went on an audition for a modeling gig with a major national magazine-my first in years. Started Yoga (I'm very flexible!), Taekwon-Do (now 6 weeks in training for my white belt), and can now run a mile in 9'05" flat.

Last weight recorded: 223
Pounds lost: -5
New weight recorded: 219

2010-02-10T00:45:00.004-05:00

Get Cuffed!

I IMMEDIATELY fell in love with this sexy bootie as soon as I saw it. A wonderfully classic, yet stylish (and versatile) spring boot. The perfect compliment to leggings, skinny or boyfriend jeans.

Cuffed Crinkled Leather Booties - $50 - Charlotterusse.com

Last weight recorded: 234
Pounds lost: -11
New weight recorded: 223

2010-01-01T02:53:00.008-05:00

Progress Photos - December 2009 (-86 pounds)

I love jersey knit. It's so forgiving--even without a proper girdle. I was a little nervous about this dress at first, partially because, prior to this, I'd plateaued for a few weeks. The scale wouldn't budge, even though my clothes seemed to be loosen somewhat. So, it's been an interesting month. My scale didn't leap into lower numbers, but I didn't put on any holiday pounds either (definitely a blessing), and I still did the full fat eggnogg this year--boy was it GOOD btw.
I simply exercised--intensified my workouts. Interval training really helped. Even made a new friend at the gym.
I snagged a M/L belt at Forever 21, and slipped into an XL sweatpants two weeks ago. I'm wearing the belt on the forth notch and the sweatpants are already loose! I'm quite excited.

I'll have to take the next set of progress photos in this dress again (it's a standard size 16, not a 16W so it's a little snug around the waist--I had no idea womens and misses sizes varied so greatly), hopefully it'll be looser next time. Keep your fingers crossed!

Last weight recorded: 240
Pounds lost: -6
New weight recorded: 234
Size 16W

2009-12-12T15:04:00.004-05:00

The Boys Club...

Nothing says menswear-done-right like a classy pair of wingtips. Pair them with a menswear inspired shirt, a set of pearls, a black or grey tweed slack and a lace-patterned trouser sock. So cute!

Gale Patent Wingtips - $22.80 - Forever21.com

Last weight recorded: 243
Pounds lost: -3
New weight recorded: 240

2009-11-30T18:41:00.004-05:00

Observation: Dating is Too Hard

I've been on the cursed Match.com for what's going on three months now. This is my second run in a year. The first was at the very beginning of the year. I took my profile down relatively early because I realized I just wasn't ready to get serious. Well, now I am. I've opened myself up to dating, and I think I'm a little more open minded than last time. Problem is, not much has been working. I think I'm sort of in a dating vacuum. All the guys I connect with all have problems of some kind. It's weird. Case in point-- I met this decent guy on Match a few weeks ago. Wasn't at all attracted to him at first, but he grew on me. Three incredible dates later, when I ask him how he thinks with us are developing, he tells me that he's still sort of seeing his Ex-girlfriend. I'm like--Whaa? Totally taken for a loop. So, of course, I'm upset and tell him that if he wants to date me, he's going to have to stop seeing his Ex. Well, this guy, this seemingly sweet, intelligent, well-travelled guy tells me that though he'd planned on moving on to a future with me, that his job might be relocating him overseas, and he would need to cut his losses (i.e. end things). Supposedly this had been one of the reasons why he hadn't ended things completely with his ex. He didn't want to start up anything new with someone else. Why wasn't I told this from the beginning? It sure would have made things easier. Oh well-back to the drawing board. Maybe I'm just naive. I'd like to believe in love and romance--really I would, but I'm skeptical and dating is just so much work. Too much work than I really have time for these days. Hmm...hope that doesn't mean I'm going to be an old maid. Anyone else know what I'm talking about here?

2009-11-16T17:48:00.013-05:00

For Hot Chics Only: 50's Flava!

Black Floral Lace Gloves - $12 - Torrid.com

Yes, they're a tad matronly, but in that oh so naughty way we love!

Black Satin Ruched Pencil Skirt - $44 - Torrid.com

Nothing says va-va vroom like a sexy form fitting skirt.
A must have for plentiful bottoms and curvy hips.
Plus, the slit in the back is to die for.

Romance Novel Top by Fashion Love - $36 - Alight.com

This top is lacy, pretty and hot all over. A great compliment to a sexy bust.

Charlotte Russe Patent Bow Platforms - $26.99 - charlotterusse.com

You can't get anymore '50's than Charlotte's new patent bow platforms. If the height scares you, don't be intimidated! The best thing about platforms are their stability and the relative comfort they offer to the ball of the foot. Plus, they are so much easier to walk in than standard heels. Still uncomfortable? Try gel inserts--they're lifesavers.

Rosette Lace Veil - $3.99 - charlotterusse.com

For a little more flair, consider adding a cute time-themed veil like this one to complete the look.

Last weight recorded: 249
Pounds lost: -6
New weight recorded: 243

2009-10-24T23:02:00.008-04:00

Progress Photos - October 2009 (-71 pounds)

My cute dress is courtesy of Faith21. You can find this and a nice selection of figure friendly dresses for the plus size woman at www.forever21.com.

I'm wearing a size 16 here. (Yay--I nearly clicked my heels when it fit!) It's a tad snug in the bust (I'm technically a size 18 and I'm not sure this is the best dress for top heavy gals like myself). I'm giving it 10 more pounds however -- I think it'll fit perfectly in a month or so.

Last weight recorded: 253
Pounds lost: -4
New weight recorded: 249

2009-10-09T23:55:00.008-04:00

I've recently started roasting fresh figs in the toaster oven. They're quick, easy to prepare and so so sweet. I sprinkle a little feta cheese and some chopped walnuts on top. Delicious!

Roasted Figs

2-4 figs sliced in half (stems removed)
2-3 sprays Fat Free cooking spray
1/4 cup Reduced Fat Feta Cheese
1/8 cup Chopped Walnuts

Set your over to 275. Spray a baking sheet with cooking spray. Place figs on the sheet (seed side up). Bake until figs are softened and slightly liquidy (approximately 8-10 minutes). Allow figs to cool, and transfer to a serving plate. Sprinkle on feta cheese and walnuts. Enjoy!

Last weight recorded: 259
Pounds lost: -6
New weight recorded: 253

2009-09-21T00:15:00.006-04:00

The New Boyfriend...

Ladies, say hello to the new "Kira" bag at Coach. He's hott, looks good on your arm, and is rolling in a whole lot of green. ;)

I tried him on today, but couldn't find a price tag.
At $898 bucks I can only wonder why. Boy, talk about "out of my league"!

His fine chiseled leather looked so fine caressing my hip.

*Sigh. * It was fun while it lasted babe.

New "Kira" Business Bag - $898 at Coach.com

Last weight recorded: 265
Pounds lost: -6
New weight recorded: 259

2009-09-20T19:16:00.015-04:00

Sexy Must Have Pieces for Your Fall Wardrobe...

Stay Laced!

Ok, can I just say that this one is really hot? The satin bow is adorable. I LOVE that it's sheer. Wear it with a fleshtone plunge bra or black form fitting tank top.

Sexy Lace Top by Fashion Love - $36 at Alight.com

Wear a Power Belt

No, it's not just for superheros...or Rihanna.
You can never go wrong with the right belt. Transforms a simple white long sleeve shirt into a sexy little masterpiece. This one has a little give.

Black Shirred Ruffle Stretch Belt -$20 at Torrid.com

Be Tempting!

If you have the figure, pair these up with a crop jacket. If you have thicker thighs or a plentiful belly (or booty), a long shirt with a billowy effect to disguise your trouble areas will work nicely here. The best part about these leggings? They're not too sheer or shinny, and they're textured for instant sex appeal. The snake skin effect gives it a racy rock star effect.

Matte Black Snake Skin Print Leggings - $25.00 at Torrid.com

Last weight recorded: 265
Pounds lost: -6
New weight recorded: 259

2009-09-07T14:53:00.009-04:00

Feeling Just Dandy Baby!...

I went kayaking for the first time this weekend! I was inspired after watching an episode of Ruby on the Style channel. It's actually lots of fun and pretty simple once you get the hang of it. My arms hips and obliques were screaming after 30 minutes, but I had a blast.

I love this sundress dress. Found it at a cute discount store for about $24 bucks. I've worn it all summer long. Getting pretty big on me now.

Last weight recorded: 267
Pounds lost: -2
New weight recorded: 265

2009-08-23T03:34:00.006-04:00

Progress Photos - August 2009 (-53 pounds)

Wow, it's been some week! This is a photo from a birthday party I attended yesterday. KFC, Cheesecake and Lasagna each came a calling. I definitely indulged a little bit, but I still managed to stay on plan. Not bad after 5 months right?
I look stronger and I feel stronger too. My favorite body part right now is the arm and back area. I can see alot of definition there. Knee's still a pain, but swimming is helping.

Last weight recorded: 270
Pounds lost: -3
New weight recorded: 267

--Dress courtesy of Ashley Stewart, $29.

2009-08-11T23:24:00.009-04:00

I did it! 50 Pounds Down!

Halfway to my 100 pound milestone. Only 50 more to go (and hopefully gone by the end of the year). I realize there about 135 more pounds to lose overall, but I can't tell you how exhilarating it is to see nearly 1/3 of this weight disappear.

I've decided to treat myself to some special "gifts" for my hard work earned when I meet milestones too!

50 pounds - A gold necklace (or earring) - not sure yet.
75 pounds - New Cell Phone
100 pounds - Bike
125 pounds - ???
150 pounds - Nintendo Wii (w/ Fit Board)
Goal - ???

Dessert, Anyone?

If you've got a mean sweet tooth and find yourself a-fixin' to down that box of Oreos in your kitchen cupboard, don't do it! I've got a better idea.
Get on your sneakers.
Walk on down to your neighborhood supermarket and hit the freezer section.
Now shimmy over to the Dessert section.
You heard me correct. DESSERT.
The geniuses at Weight Watchers have created the perfect guilt free dessert for sugar addicts like us. Their Smart One's Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Sundae is sooo good, I guarantee that you'll scrape the edge of the container with your spoon (and maybe even your mouth) before you toss it. I was pretty upset when Weight Watcher's decided to chuck their Key Lime Cheesecake from production, but I must say, this is a mighty fine substitute. Picture vanilla ice cream atop a chocolate chip cookie crust, with fudge topping and chunks of cookie dough in between. And at just 3 points, you can afford to eat both servings in the box if you're feeling greedy and not completely blow your diet.

Smart One's Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Sundae - 170 Cal | 3 g Fat | 1 g Fiber (per serving)

Last weight recorded: 274
Pounds lost: -4
New weight recorded: 270

2009-08-02T17:29:00.005-04:00

Four Pounds Away from 50!

I'm just ounces away from reaching half of my 100 pound goal. When I started the program in April, my goal was to lose the lionshare of my excess weight (at least 100 of the 185 pounds I'd gained over the course of my life) by the close of this year. At this rate, I might just make it. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

It's a bit exciting because I can't remember a time in my life when I didn't struggle with weight. I started this journey at a size 24/26. I'm a size 22 now! I spent five years trapped in a 3x, and now I can finally slide into a 2x. Some of my 2x's actually fit a lot looser now than they had when I purchased them and it feels so good to see my hard work paying off.

When I hit the 100 pound goal, I will be 220 pounds again and I'll probably cry. Sure, that may seem alot to the average person, but I'm pretty tall and when I was 220 pounds, I looked pretty decent. Boy, those were the days! Mini skirts with hemlines above the knee, sexy catsuits, and boots that fit over my calves. Okay I had to wrestle the boots on, but at least I could get them all the way up!

The last time I was 220 pounds, I was 18 years old and a freshman in college. I was a size 16/18 and had just discovered my sensuality. After years of hiding my body in bad clothes, I wanted to flaunt it. I had a body type very similar to Shayla's from "Dance Your Ass Off" actually. Thick, a tinsy-winsy belly, not too flabby. Now, almost everything is flabby!

I have alot of respect for Shayla by the way. :) Not only is she a great dancer, but she's doing things in dresses I could never have imagined doing when I was her size (and to a TV audience no less). I'm enjoying Ruben, Pinky and Mara too.

Photo: Shayla from Oxygen TV's "Dance Your Ass Off"

http://dyao.oxygen.com/

Last weight recorded: 278
Pounds lost: -4
New weight recorded: 274

2009-07-28T03:10:00.007-04:00

Do Now: DRESS it Up!

Turn up the heat with a sexy sundress in a graphical print like this bold saucy number Chrisette Michelle is wearing...

Plum Paisley Boho Maxi Dress -$76- Torrid.com

2009-07-28T01:53:00.006-04:00

Let them eat cake! Or not.

I just had a birthday. Valiantly stood my ground in the face of the great equalizer... Cake.

As soon as I saw the thing (I didn't order it), I made a quick resolution to end my impending yummy torture at just two bites, and actually succeeded. Yay! It wasn't easy, let me tell ya.

Now, I love cake as much as the next gal (and probably a bit more, because I live in NYC and let's be honest, it's pretty highly freakin' likely that the "next gal" will be a size 4, with a waist size equivalent of a pencil), but there ain't nuthin' in a cake that's even remotely diet friendly.

It's a little known fact that the S in Dessert actually stands for S&M ( as in sado-masochistic). Yep, dessert is right up there next to the nipple clamps and the butt flogger.

Why do we use cake to celebrate birthday's anyway? Why must we do the S&M? Sure, it might be fun to get smacked on the bottom every now and then, but you're still going to end up with a pretty sore, red ass. I hate to channel my inner skinny bitch here, but don't folks realize that eating cake will only add an extra digit to an already zip code-large ass? ESPECIALLY, a massive slice of chocolate cake (about the size of Texas), with chocolate frosting and (as if that weren't enough), chocolate chips sprinkled on the top and a f$#@-ing hefty heap of whipped cream on the side.

I swear, if there were a twelve step program for being addicted to chocolate I would be in it. If there were a medal of valor for bravery in face of death by dessert, I should have it.

*Sigh*. I'd better stop now, as I'm making myself hungry again. Really, it's not fair, but as they say " all things in moderation".

Only, be sure to leave the leftovers for sanitation. Or charity...whatever works best for you. ;)

image courtesy of bbcgoodfood.com

Last weight recorded: 282
Pounds lost: -5
New weight recorded: 278

2009-07-17T17:07:00.003-04:00

Exercise Made Easy

After becoming saddled with this ITBS injury, I had to find a way to keep moving without overworking my joints. Aqua-jogging is a great way to rev up your engine whether your injured or not. Plus, it's perfect for full figured ladies like ourselves because it's virtually no impact. In the water your body only weighs 20% of what it would weigh on land, so you don't get tuckered out as quickly. You can try shallow water jogging or deep water jogging with floatation equipment. I prefer deep water jogging myself because it really ups the resistance. Don't worry, you'll still end up burning as many calories as you would had you been jogging on land-- and in the same amount of time. You can set your own pace, and move as fast or slowly as you want to. In deep water jogging, the resistance of the water really helps you get your heart rate up, albeit comfortably.

The best part? No sweaty, sticky clothes!

The hardest part? Balance. It's a little tricky with the deep water belt at first, but you'll get the hang of it with a little patience.

Here's my water jogging routine:

10 minute warm up lap - freestyle (or breaststroke, backstroke--whichever your prefer)

45 minutes aqua jog ( 1-2 minute wadding rest intervals every 15 minutes)

10 minute cool down - free swim

Last weight recorded: 285
Pounds lost: -3
New weight recorded: 282

2009-06-28T01:04:00.006-04:00

Yays and nays...

Down three more pounds (yay!), but I'm in so much pain. I had the nerve to go out last night and do a light jog yesterday on the outdoor track. Ordinarily, that would be fine, but my legs have been so sore and stiff lately. Now they just feel worse. I think my knee needs to be examined. I've held out long enough. Scared that the Doc will tell me to stay off my legs for a while--What exercises could I possibly do off my legs??

Doesn't help that the Mosquitoes have been biting me like it's going out of style. (and I'm talking big FAT bites here)! I've got a serious case of the itchy-scratchies and I scar so easily! Thank goodness my Mom was able to score me a bottle of Skin So Soft (Original Formula) from Avon. There's something in it that repels the bastards. I put a generous capful in my Cetaphil and I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

Last weight recorded: 288
Pounds lost: -3
New weight recorded: 285

R.I.P.. Micheal J, you will be missed.

2009-06-22T13:29:00.021-04:00

Progress Photos - June 2009 (-30 pounds)

Still alot of pudge around the 'ol waistline, but crunches are helping! I started at 50 sit-ups, now I do 100-125 a day. Really can't wait until that tire disappears!

My not so secret abspiration (because I'm crazy that way): Ms. Janet.
I read somewhere that she works out 2.5 hours a day.
My goodness that's alot of sit ups!

Check out my new swimsuit. I think it's beautiful, but still not the best choice for large cups if you need something for sport.
I usually wear a Tankini top over it to keep the girls firmly tucked in, otherwise it's a little too racy for exercise.

Women's Plus Side-Ruched Swimsuit - $19.50, Old Navy.com

2009-06-20T01:33:00.018-04:00

Losing Weight: The Good, The Bad and The Tasty

What's Good - Omega 3

I take a Fish Oil supplement every day. Omega 3 (also found in fish oil), is a little known vitamin that's highly recommended by physician's and health enthusiasts alike for boosting cardiovascular health. But did you know that it is also very good at aiding weight loss?! Not only will this little magic gold pill improve your circulation and brighten up your skin, it will help you burn fat more efficiently.
Not into bullet like supplements? Try flaxseeds, walnuts or salmon.

Personally I like Smart Balance Omega-3 enhanced Milk. If you like Milk, you'll find that their brand is mighty delish. The 1% tastes like full fat!

What's Bad: Anything with excess fat, excess sugar and excess salt. Combined, they're a virtual trifecta of diet failure. Remember you should try to limit your fat intake to 20% of your daily calories. Keep sugar in the single digits when possible (per serving) and remember that anything above 200 mg of salt per serving might add bloat to an already curvy figure. Final analysis? Go ahead, have the Mickey D's fries girl, just have the small serving instead.

What's Tasty: An Ice Cream You Can Finally Sink Your Teeth Into (without sinking your ass in the process).

Finally, something that satisfies my coffee and my Hagen Dazs fix! I'm gaga over these Weight Watchers GiantLatte Coffee Ice Cream Bars. They are sooo good it's sick and they're only 90 Calories (1 Point for Weight Watchers folks like me). Com'on folks. You can't lose anything, but pounds with this one.

2009-06-20T01:06:00.005-04:00

I really love how Igigi's dresses complement the figure. Whether you have an ample bust or a plump backside you can always find something in their store that will suit your body type.

Ample Busted Amazons - try:

Kamryn Dress in Fushia (Limited Collection) - Igigi by Yulia Raquel, $42, Igigi.com

Pear Shaped Pretties - try:

Starla 2 in 1 Dress - Igigi by Yulia Raquel, $42, Igigi.com

2009-06-20T00:53:00.003-04:00

Plus in the City: Torrid Brings the Sexy back with their New "Carrie" Boot.

Taupe Carrie Peeptoe Bootie -$42, Torrid.com

These are so cute. Reminds me of something out of Gwen Stefani's L.A.M.B. line, but a 'lil more full figure friendly. Don't forget to leave me a pair of 8.5's!

2009-06-20T00:20:00.011-04:00

Chrisette Michelle: Full Fledged Full Figured Fashion Forward Diva!

Check out some of Michelle's TIGHT (and I do mean tight) looks lately. Ladies take notes and go get the album. Girlfriend can BLOW.

2009-06-19T23:27:00.011-04:00

You're plus size, but that does not mean you can't have beautiful skin!

The angels smiled when God created the company that created Cetaphil. Can I just say I swear by this stuff? I have severely dry skin, but not many people are aware of that fact and that's because I'm a stickler for moisturizing! Now, I wasn't always that way! However, after a few weeks of religiously following a strict moisturizing routine (twice a day), I really saw a huge difference in my skin. Dry skin and hair needs lots of moisture year round. Here's what I do to keep my skin looking and feeling satiny smooth:

1. Use a moisturizing soap - preferably a cream rather than a gel. I like Johnson's Softwash Melt Away Stress 24 Hour Moisturizing Wash (smells heavenly too) or St. Ives Mineral Therapy Wash. For my face, I use Cetaphil Daily Facial Cleanser.

2. Exfoliate - You can by a fancy pre-made store scrub, but it's not really necessary to spend a ton of money on this. Sometimes I make my own scrub from Sea Salt and Almond Oil. You can find those ingredients in your local supermarket and it's really easy to make. Get a small jar, add two parts sea salt to one part oil, and you're done. Really rub the scrub in to slough off the dead skin, but be careful not to rub too hard or you'll do more damage than good. If sea salt is not your thing, use sugar or try exfoliation gloves. You can find them at Duane Reade for under $4 bucks.

3. Oil - I apply baby oil or mineral oil to my skin when damp to trap the moisture in. I Really love the oil gels that Johnson's make because they last longer, but you can use regular baby oil as well. Hey, if it's good enough for the baby, it's good enough for you too!

4. Steam - this is the secret ingredient. Turn up the dial on the hot water and stand in the stall for a steam treat. I do it for about 5 minutes after I've applied my oil. It adds moisture to the skin.

5. Rinse and Pat (Not Rub) dry - Rinse off using cool to lukewarm water and PAT dry using a fluffy towel.

6. Cream - As soon as your out of the shower, massage Cetaphil Moisturizing Cream all over and you're done. Don't forget to spray on some sunblock if you're heading out!

2009-06-19T17:18:00.016-04:00

Don't Call Me Big Boned...

I know that being full figured and and fashion forward is all the rage these days, but I realized a few months ago, that being fat and fab means nothing if you're not healthy.
So, what's a girl like me supposed to do when she wants to get healthy?

Well, she joins Weight Watchers.

Okay, Okay, I can hear the not so distant sighs of big gals everywhere as they read this: "Another Diet... no Yasi, not you too!" and, "Do those things really work?"

Short Answer? Yes, but you have to work them.

I work out a minimum of 4-5 days a week for 45 - 90 minutes on average and I REALLY watch what I eat (yes, me---the recipe lover). It was hard at first, but it gets easier everyday. I still have my recipes, I just make everything that much healthier. At Weight Watchers we count points instead of calories. I try not to think of it as a diet as much as a lifestyle change because I'm using what I've learned to change my relationship with food. Food (now) is more than something I use to simply satisfy pleasure or hunger. It's not a sword I use against myself. It's fuel for a more active, less limited, and helluva lot more enjoyable lifestyle.

Nope, I'm not shitting you. No Pills. No bypass to leave me with excess skin and a hefty hospital bill. Just good old fashioned diet and exercise. I work out when I'm tired, I workout when I'm in pain, and I really workout when I'm sad and just want some fried chicken, a huge slice of chocolate cake and a big 'ol fat glass of Moscato to wash it down with. I work out because I have to. Exercise is like my daily shower or bath. I just do it because I know that if I don't I'm going to be really smelly. Besides, going to gym getting buff and then stopping is lot like going commando in the deodorant department. Things start to go south quick. Not cute!

The thing about weight loss is, it's the cumulative work that counts. You have to keep at it. If you do, it pays off. I re-discovered my deltoids muscles the other day. I'm stronger than I've been a long while; and though I managed to snag a ITBS injury to my right knee within the first few weeks of jogging that nearly put me out of commission (sucks!), I discovered my new found joy for running could be easily parlayed into speed walking, swimming and boxing. It's been three months and I've lost 30 pounds and a dress size.
I've done three charity run/walk events this year, and I'm working my way up to a half marathon (for 2010). Guess what? You can do it too.

Listen, I'm not saying that you have to be slim. If you love your curves (and they're nice and tight), celebrate them! I am saying however, that we could all learn a thing or two about being healthier. Proper diet and exercise really empowers! There was a time when I couldn't see my thighs over my stomach or wear a tank top in a public gym for fear of revealing the ever so unsexy flag of flesh undulating from beneath my armpits. Now, I hardly crack a sweat when I remove my hoodie and I can see the top of my thighs without craning my neck. It's all good!

I'd always been active, but was never too good at fighting my urges in the food department. Well, as it just so happens, I stopped doing even the little bit of exercise I had been doing to stabilize my weight to focus on career. I decided to lose myself in jobs that sucked up all of my personal time, while simultaneously developing a company of my own. Before I knew it, I was completely on the back burner. By the time my last job ended and my company was launched, I was my highest weight ever - 318 pounds. I couldn't ride the train without feeling a sense of shame. My figure wasn't the same, I was out of breath when I walked the stairs, I found myself weezing when I ran a quarter of a block. The boys didn't look at me the same. I was so depressed and very lonely.

It's hard to believe, but so many things can change for the better in a few short weeks. I'm 288 pounds today, my confidence is growing, my figure is returning and I'm seeing better changes in my body and my health everyday. Still a bit lonely, but the days are getting better. My goal is to drop 138 to 153 more pounds to see how the lighter half lives. I know I can do this, and I hope I have your support.

I'll be posting before and after photos here once a month. I hope you'll join me on my journey. I'd love for you to post your comments and or share your own success photos and or stories as I navigate towards a slimmer and healthier new me.

2008-12-07T03:49:00.002-05:00

2008-04-26T22:51:00.007-04:00

Beautease. Three GREAT products to try...

Kamille & Glycerine Handcream by Herbacin - $5.99 Wholefoods Nationwide

The tin alone gives it an upgrade in my book. This thing is like a permanent fixture in my purse. If you suffer from dry skin, the non greasy moisture rich combination will make your post hand washing experience a pleasure. The chamomile has healing properties. Plus, It's cream, not lotion, so it's not messy at all. It layers on like frosting and forms an invisible layer to protect your skin from the elements. Best of all, it's all natural and smells heavenly.

Mac Brow Finisher - $15 at Mac.com

This little wax pencil is ingenious. Cancel your brow appointment with your Korean manicurist ladies. You're paying her to do your HANDS , not your brows anyway. Save a few hairs (not to mention a few bucks) and work this little wand in between maintenance sessions. If you were blessed by the brow genie like me, you might even be able to forgo the maintenance all together and skip straight to the pencil.

Pacifica Tahitian Gardenia Solid Perfume - $8.95 at pacificacandles.com

I simply love Gardenias. When my perfume fazes out, I just rub a little of this solid perfume on and I feel like a million bucks once again. It spreads on like a balm, and it's oil based, so it lasts pretty long. A little bit goes a long way, and it's REALLY convenient. The tiny tin is great for a purse or small clutch. Perfect for discreet little applications when you're in the subway, or doing a quick touch up between meetings. Try the other scents too.

--Y

2008-04-26T22:15:00.006-04:00

In My Closet...
If you're a flabby arm victim like yours truly, you will thank the Lord above for this wonderful light creation. I can't seem to go anywhere without this light little jacket. It's comfortable and roomy. My best (smaller and almost as stylish) friend, ;), has about three or four of these little numbers in her own closet. You can go ultra casual with a cute Tee, a pair of jeans and pointy ballet flats; Or, you can dress it up with a nice button down cotton shirt, a crisp pair of slacks and some gam-enhancing stiletto platforms. Now that's what I'm talking about! Three cheers for fashion that is fast, flattering, fun (and easy). Can the busy girls say hallelujah?!

--Yasi

Sassy Swing Jacket - $39.00 at alight.com

2008-04-26T21:10:00.006-04:00

Yasi and The Burlesque Lingerie Co. Joins the Race For the Cure to K.O. Cancer...

On May 3, 2008, yours truly, in conjunction with The Burlesque Lingerie Company, will participate in the 11th annual Revlon Run/Walk for Women; a race for the cure for cancer and other cancer related illnesses that afflict women worldwide year after year. Won't you please show your support for Yasi's Place by donating to this awesome cause? Any amount will help. You can make your donation by linking to my personal fundraising page:

Yasi's Revlon Run/Walk Fundraising Page

Cheers,

--Y

2008-03-23T04:11:00.004-04:00

Food for thought...

According to dictionary.com (a.k.a Webster's) the definition of confidence is:

1. full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing: We have every confidence in their ability to succeed.

2. belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance: His lack of confidence defeated him.

3. certitude; assurance: He described the situation with such confidence that the audience believed him completely.

How would you measure your own confidence? Do you look in the mirror and like what you see? Is it your clothes that you disapprove of; or is it something skin deep?
What would you change? What do you believe you deserve?

-Y

2008-03-23T03:28:00.004-04:00

Head nods go to...

Toccara Jones.

Why her you ask? Well, yes, the Celebrity Fit Club star is loud. Maybe a tad Ghetto? Ok, very Ghetto! And it's clear her plentiful backside and front side are no match for her gigantic ego, but the girl gets props for proving that you can be a size 12 or 14 and be undeniably sexy!

Pics Courtesy of www.cutiecentral.com

2008-03-23T02:54:00.004-04:00

Shoes Clues...

Who Would've thunk it? The folks a Keds have brought us a new and improved skip, and this one is runway approved.

Keds Retro - $64 at zappos.com

Remember, a chunkier heel=more support. A definite plus for us full figured gals.

Fedaka 2 by Nine West - $93 a zappos.com

Kitten heels are back (thus the sound of collective sighs made by heels all around the world). These are cute and classic, and most importantly, cheap!

Kelsey Peep Toe Pump by Predictions - $12.99 at Payless.com

2008-03-23T02:29:00.003-04:00

Spring Bling...

Whether you have a flair for the raunchy or happen to prefer a simpler, more understated look, you'll find that there are tons of very pretty and equally functional dress looks out there designed to compliment all figures this season.

Cheers,

-Y

Has Sprung Dress by Donna Rico - $128 at alight.com

Pink Power Dress by Pink Apple - $42 at alight.com

Flash Back Dress by Reya - $48 alight.com

Wrap Star Dress in Black by Mlle Gabrielle - $48 at alight.com

2007-12-26T01:57:00.000-05:00

Purple Haze

Paris Silk Tie Neck Dress by Monif C ($208.00 at alight.com)

Art Collector Top by Pink.Girl ($29.00 at alight.com)

Report by Amelie ($178.95 at zappos.com)

2007-12-25T20:53:00.000-05:00

Your Best Accessory: Soap to Get You Smiling This Season

Mmm...good 'ol Hot Cocoa. Well gals, thanks to modern technology it's not just for drinking anymore. The folks at Philosophy have found a way for us to bathe with it! Believe me...Nothing in a 20 ounce bottle ever appeared sexier. It's not edible, but the heavenly smell make me want to lick the nozzle.

Is chocolate better than sex? Hmmm... Maybe. Jump in the shower and give it a whirl. Even better, take him to the shower with you and put the adage to the test.

Happy New Year Ladies. ;)

--Yasi

2007-10-24T00:38:00.000-04:00

5 Easy Tips To Manage Stress And Anxiety For A Real Woman On The Run
By Kim Berube

My lifelong battle with anxiety and low-grade depression began around the age of six. I can remember lying in my bed, worrying about when my mom and dad would die. It was anticipatory, senseless, out of control worry. Obsessive worry, over stuff I couldn't do anything about anyway.
The kind of worry that controls you.

I do not believe there was a single moment that triggered my anxiety. I simply have always been anxious. It is just how I am made, chemically speaking.

Although my main anxiety has always been about death, if you name it, I have thought of it. Terrorism, super-viruses, plane crashes, cancer, hating my poor dentist, freak accidents, killer bees.

Anxiety is exhausting!

Following the birth of two of my children, I suffered from dreadful bouts of postpartum depression. My family doctor prescribed Paxil, which I believe was the right course of treatment at the time. However, the side-effects of weight gain and low sex drive were enough to discourage a lengthy stay on treatment, and the thought of chemically 'masking' my symptoms didn't bode well with me. After numerous months I weaned myself off Paxil. THIS WAS NOT A PLEASANT EXPERIENCE and SHOULD NEVER BE DONE WITHOUT CONSULTING YOUR PHYSICIAN. I suffered from dizzy spells, uncontrollable crying, mood swings and increased anxiety. I did find some temporary relief by taking an all-natural supplement called 5-HTP. Alas, even that success was short-lived.

The frustrating part of living with anxiety and battling depression is that people just do not 'get' it. They tilt their head to the side and say things like, "well, just don't think about it." Others think that I have nothing better to do. Still others would think that I could turn it on and shut it off like a faucet. IF ONLY IT WERE THAT SIMPLE!

I have read dozens of books on changing my thoughts, managing my stress and coping with anxiety. While it has always been comforting to know that I was not insane and that there are many other men, women and children who suffer from anxiety and depression as well, there has been nothing that has been a 100% cure-all.

HOWEVER, I have had terrific success with these five little techniques that I use to keep my stress and anxiety at a manageable level.

1. WHAT DOES STRESS OR ANXIETY LOOK AND FEEL LIKE? Recognizing it within yourself. I call this 'temperature checking.' Am I stiff? Am I obsessing? Do I have a knot in my gut? Is my heart racing?

When I feel anxious, what does my body do? How does it respond to a 'perceived' threatening situation. I get a lump in my throat. I feel as though I am swallowing over an orange. I get tense, jumpy and over-react. I get lost in my own thoughts and can get irritated if someone tries to talk to me.

2. GET TO KNOW YOUR TRIGGERS. What sets you off? Do you get anxious close to your period? Is it hormonal or cyclical? Are you more anxious on the weekend? In crowds. On the highway? In the middle of the night? Is it the little things that trigger it? Or do you find that it is a culmination of several stressors that will set you off.

For me, it is always a combination of things. Exhaustion is a key factor. Hormones, definitely. Being out of my normal routine, with no plans can trigger it. I am a master keep-busy person. This habit of keeping myself occupied as an avoidance technique doesn't work. I need rest and rejuvenation to stay anxiety-free and when I am constantly busy, guess what? I don't relax.

3. KEEP IT IN PERSPECTIVE. Create a feeling of security wherever you are. Bring it back to minute by minute if that is what is necessary. Positive affirmation: I am alright this minute.

Simple enough? This took a great deal of practice for me. Those who suffer from anxiety LOOOVVVE looking into their crystal ball. What if?...

4. SURRENDER. Learn to release what it too heavy to carry.

I cannot overstate the importance of learning to surrender your worries to a power higher than yourself. Whether you are a spiritual person, deeply religious or are a believer in an all-encompassing 'life-force,' there is great freedom in learning to LET GO.

Visualization works well if you find it difficult to release your worries and fears. People rave about the benefits of meditation although I am rarely successful at keeping my mind quiet. Research a few options so you can play around with a few methods of experiencing surrender. I find this technique VERY useful.

5. LIVING WITH ANXIETY. It is possible to be peaceful and happy.

Stay as rested as possible. When I am overtired I find it almost impossible to stay relaxed and at ease. If I want to 'crash' emotionally, this is how to do it.

EXERCISE! Not just a few stretches on the floor either! Cardio is the ONLY type of exercise that works for me. It gets my heart pumping, my blood flowing and my happy hormones dancing. Within a few days of not exercising, I notice an immediate decline in my mood.

Avoid the news. There is nothing quite as destructive to a fragile soul as the six o'clock news. If you must be informed, choose one program, preferably local, and only watch it once a day or every couple of days.

SEEK OUT THE POSITIVE! Our news/media makes it very easy to see all that is 'wrong' with the world. Make it your aim to find all of life's little pleasures. I'll bet if you start looking, it won't take long to find an armload of joy!

Kim Bérubé is the owner and publisher of Real Woman on the Run Magazine. Kim is dedicated to validating and creating a feeling of success in the everyday 'Jane' who is balancing life precariously between family, career, community and volunteerism. Real Woman on the Run Magazine offers interesting and insightful information, real-life stories as well as valuable tools and resources for females of all ages. Kim shares her brilliant and creative 'real-life' anecdotes and 'wake-up-to-life' solutions through her 'Validate and Rejuvenate' speaking engagments, the magazine and the Real Woman on the Run weblog.

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2007-10-24T00:20:00.000-04:00

Discover Style That's Easy On The Silver Money Clips
By Bradley Mckoy

To some, clothing is nothing but an outer shell that contains the person within. To others, clothing makes the person. It works on what is most important - first impressions.

The Power of Style

Picture this. A person with money but is dressed shabbily walks into a posh hotel. Chances are he or she will be ignored and even scorned at first glance. He or she will suffer the treatment of scorned indifference until the contents of his or her silver money clips are established. On the other hand, if a well-dressed person walks into the same fancy hotel, he or she will be revered and graciously served pronto. That is, until they figure out that the same person has no silver money clips tucked inside the fancy coat.

As shallow as it may seem, clothing is instrumental in that all too crucial first encounter, regardless if it’s a hotel, a date, or a board meeting. There is truth in the phrase “power dressing”. Dress is indeed power.

Wear What You Are

It may seem like pointless vanity, but clothing can do wonders for everyone. Wearing what you do greatly contributes to success in your chosen field. It’s a simple matter of taking it as far as your silver money clips can take you. For example, a librarian should dress the part of one – simple, austere, and authoritative. A librarian will be all wrong in a Dolce and Gabbana track suit, not that his or her silver money clips can afford one.

A Wall Street investment banker is more than likely to be heard in a board meeting if he or she is wearing Armani, as opposed to an off-the-rack number from JC Penney’s. A freelance writer in a trendy Prada summer dress will surely get the $2.50/word assignment at Vogue when pitted against another writer wearing orange polyester. The model boldly wearing couture in a party will probably be in the next Gucci fashion collection. Even the drunken hobo on the street will get more coins from passersby the shabbier he dresses.

Dress For Less

Indeed, there’s truth in the words: "Clothes make the man (or woman)." Of course, you’re not expected to invest in clothes that are beyond the means of your silver money clips. What you are expected to do, however, is invest in clothes that fit you and your profession to a T. Just because a certain style is popular doesn’t mean it suits you. Create your own style and maintain it. Maintain the balance between style and comfort. There’s nothing that ruins one’s image more than ill-fitting and uncomfortable clothing.

You don’t need to stretch your silver money clips to find good clothes. You just have to know where to look. Thrift shops and vintage clothing shops is a minefield of hard-to-find and unique pieces that will suit you. Stick to the basics but also invest on a stunning garment or two. Mix and match, and don’t be afraid to use color. Use your imagination. You’re well on your way to give Coco Chanel a run for her money.

Want to bring out the fashionista in you? Visit executivegiftshoppe.com for a wide array of silver money clips, hip flasks, and Colibri pocket watches.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Bradlley_Mckoy
http://EzineArticles.com/?Discover-Style-Thats-Easy-On-The-Silver-Money-Clips&id=708569

2007-10-23T23:00:00.000-04:00

5 Cute New Items for Your Fall Closet...

Faux Suede Vest by Yoki ($38.00 at alight.com)

Golden Rule Jean by MWAK ($49.00 at alight.com)

Sheer Georgette Top by Pink.Com ($32.00 at alight.com)

Be Beautiful Dress by Ruby Rox ($79.00 at alight.com)

Hartford shoes by Stuart Weitzman ($305.00 at zappos.com)

2007-07-08T15:18:00.001-04:00

Pretty in Paradise....

'Henna' Wedges by Diego Di Lucca ($125.06 at zappos.com)

Future Floral Dress by Mlle Gabrielle ($48.00 at alight.com)

Jewel Cocktail Ring ($6 at wetseal.com)

2007-04-09T23:40:00.000-04:00

Tasty!

Ice Cream Cone Enamel Charm, 14K Yellow Gold
($85 at amazon.com)

2007-04-08T18:07:00.000-04:00

Why Friendship And Dating Do Not Go Together

by Elaine Sihera

How often do we hear the statement from single people looking for new dates: "I'm seeking friendship first" because they like to get to 'know' the person before delving into anything more intimate. Men in particular, who fear commitment, love to hide behind this condition, while never really achieving their aim. But is such 'friendship' possible? Isn't that putting the cart before the horse? Let's look at the evidence.

Just a B-u-d-d-y?

Once I got talking online to a seemingly kindly man who fancied me. I explained clearly on the phone that I liked his personality but not enough to take it any further and I didn't think it was a good idea to meet. He felt I was judging him from afar and that I should give him some chance to prove himself, especially when he was merely inviting me to lunch. He was sure that, if I was proved right, we could at least 'be friends'. I was not sure about that but felt I ought to give him the benefit of the doubt to meet up and allow the situation to unfold.

In the end he was old-fashioned in his views, stuck in the past wishing for the 'good old days' and rather mean in affirming people, while being quick with criticism. I didn't warm to him at all and the great personality didn't seem so great in close-up! He also kept grabbing my hand to hold it and I wasn't impressed as I dislike physical contact when I don't feel comfortable. I reminded him of what I had said on the phone and he left the date promising to be 'friends' but was noticeably peeved that I wasn't more amenable to his overtures. I never heard from him again, which did not really surprise me, because his desire for friendship was not genuine in the first place. It was a way to get nearer to me to help me change my mind about him. His ego was hurt and, as 'friendship' was not what he really sought, he didn't care to keep the connection, even though we had shared a very good rapport. And that's what happens in most instances like these. It is difficult to be friends when you fancy the person and wish to get closer to them but they are holding you at arms' length, or vice versa. It is a clear mismatch, and in any mismatch one person is losing out, so friendship isn't possible because it has an unequal and superficial foundation.

The Basis of Genuine Friendship
Genuine friendship originates from understanding another's needs and aspirations and appreciating their pain and joy. It comes out of being able to empathise with them, in both good and bad times. Such knowledge and response are not possible until one knows another for a while and feels comfortable with their presence. Thus true friendship is highly unlikely with anyone we do not know well. When it comes to members of the opposite sex, or instances where there is clear attraction, friendship is the last thing on the cards because the feelings of attraction will overwhelm all other platonic ones and get in the way of real friendship developing.

When we fancy someone we can always fool ourselves that should the fancying not prove mutual, it can then turn into friendship and everyone will be happy. But this seldom happens between two strangers seeking to be affirmed and valued by one another. In any failure to have mutual attraction, one person is bound to feel rejected and so friendship is unlikely in such a scenario because he/she will not feel motivated to get to know the other any better. Their sense of rejection will propel them elsewhere to get the affirmation they seek.

Controlling Factors
Another reason for seeking 'friendship' in the first instance is the desire for control. To prevent being 'hurt', some people believe that seeking friendship first keeps pain at bay. But if there is going to be hurt, no amount of having friendship at the beginning is going to stave off the pain. Such hurt usually comes when we are at the familiar stage in relationships; when we take each other for granted or when one or both parties begin to lose their appeal. Not at the start of the relationship. So seeking friendship first is really delaying the inevitable in a superficial way, especially where one fears commitment, and has little to do with the desire for real friendship. We cannot replace sexual feelings with friendship because friendship is enduring while fancying someone is likely to be fleeting. Putting the two together is a contradiction in itself, especially when true friendship is only possible when the heady feelings of romance have taken their course and we appreciate the person as someone truly valuable in our journey because we have grown to like/love them more.

Next time you are seeking friendship first, ask yourself why you need tons of 'friends' instead of lovers. You might be surprised by the answers you get. Not only that, look back at all the dates that have failed to live up to expectations and count up all the real friendships that emerged from them. You are likely to find that once there was any kind of rejection involved, friendship would be the last thing anyone wanted at the time!

About the Author...

ELAINE SIHERA (Ms Cyprah - http://www.myspace.com/elaineone) is a media contributor and columnist for Black Britain Online. The first Black graduate of the OU and a post-graduate of Cambridge University, Elaine is a CONSULTANT for Diversity Management, Personal Empowerment and Relationships. Dynamic extrovert with a passion for living and people. An intelligent, confident expert who enjoys every aspect of life. Author of: 10 Easy Steps to Growing Older Disgracefully; 10 Easy Steps to Finding Your Ideal Soulmate!; Money, Sex & Compromise and Managing the Diversity Maze, among others. Also the founder of the British Diversity Awards and the Windrush Achievement Awards. She describes herself as "Fit, Fabulous, Over-fifty and Ready to Fly!" QUOTE: "I do not wish to be any other age because my life at 25 was nowhere as exciting and enjoyable as my life at 50. One thing is certain: no genteel ageing for me - I'll be going there disgracefully and enjoying every minute!"

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Elaine_Sihera

2007-04-08T17:00:00.000-04:00

What I'm Wearing Now...

1. Peek Toe Skimmers...

The new ballerina flat rocks. It's ridiculously comfortable and super fun to wear. I toss my metallic pair in my bag and wear them at work with long trousers. It's still too cold to wear them out!

'Cassie' by Report Lemon Fabric Skimmers ($50.95 at zappos.com)

2. A Studded Satchel...

I have one just like this in canary yellow and I love it. It can be 30 degrees outside and one look at that pretty summery shade and I'm channeling images of lemon gelatto, and bare naked toes.

Studs and Rings Toe by Wetseal ($29.95 at wetseal.com)

3. The Fedora

No, I'm not a mobster, but if Jennifer Lopez can do it, so can I. Pair with a sleek suit for instant sharp style status.

Polka Dot Band Fedora by Wet Seal ($9.50 at wetseal.com)

4. The Sexy Tee...(plenty of them)

Yes, Lycra can be your friend. Especially when it comes delivered in a stripped, pretty candy colored package.

Hot Kiss Green And White Stripe Keyhole Top ($28.98 at torrid.com)

2007-04-08T16:24:00.000-04:00

Blazing Denim...

Okay Ladies. We all know there's nothing sweeter in life (or more comfortable I might add) than a decent pair of jeans. Not only are they hip and super easy for wear, but armed with the right pair, you can squeeze some killer legs and an even hotter backside out of the deal (an excellent bonus for us semi- flat arsed girls). ;)

If a simple pair of jeans can do that for you lower half, why not try applying the same logic to your top half?

A good blazer like this foxy number by Venucci ($39 at alight.com) can compliment any figure. The large pockets provide the illusion of a longer torso while the tapered cut nips in the waist. Pair with a full cotton skirt and some cute round toe metallic flats for a savvy urban ballerina look.

Daring Denim Jacket by Venucci ($39 at alight.com)

2007-03-04T11:59:00.000-05:00

Are You An Emotional Eater
By Patricia Zelkovsky

Millions of people fall into the category of emotional eating. Emotional eating is also a major cause of obesity. Emotional eating can be called a psychological disorder, as it does not satisfy hunger.

Food is a vital source of energy and nourishment. It is not possible to perform daily activities without food and not a single organ can perform its function without food. Nevertheless, it also performs some other roles in our lives - a role of entertainment and comfort. We prepare food whole-heartedly and serve to show love or friendship or to celebrate joy.

What is emotional eating?

Emotional eaters see food not as a source of energy but they eat simply because they want to divert their mind from any sad feelings or stress. Emotional eating is considered to be on the same addiction level as drugs, alcohol and cigarette smoking often causing a spiraling depression.

How can you tell if you are an emotional eater? Do you indulge in eating other than satisfying your hunger? Are you full of thoughts about food? I am not talking about getting excited over an occasional treat or a simple craving. We all have cravings and when hungry we will all focus our thoughts on food. I am specifically speaking of thoughts of food that literally take over thoughts of everything else. Thoughts of food that totally consume you. If you answered yes to all these questions, it means that you are an emotional eater.

How can you overcome emotional eating? Emotional eating resulting in obesity will often overwhelm your conscience and make you feel more depressed. Many will often submit to purging their food, in order to keep their weight low. Not only does purging cause short term distress on your body, there is often long term physical and psychological damage that may take years to repair.

Although emotional eating is often best dealt with by a professional, there are a few tips that you can try on your own.

Try to get to know yourself. I know that this sounds very simplistic but many people often don't know themselves as well as they think that they do. Take a pad and a pen and write down all of your good traits. Now list any accomplishments that you have had in your life, however small they might be. Beneath that, list people that depend on you. After reading your list over you should start to see that you have some really qualities and that by over eating you may jeopardize these. If by chance you list is rather small don't get discouraged, it just means that you are not giving yourself enough credit for what you do best. Try letting a trusting spouse, friend or partner complete your list. They will more than likely be able to fill several sheets.

Divert your mind. If you are stressed or tensed, you should try to divert your mind away from food. If you are not hungry, you can divert your mind in reading books, listening to music or doing your favorite activity. Try to meditate and think about your most relaxing place in the world. The beach, a pool, the top of a mountain, you get the idea. This will take your mind away for a few minutes and when you return, there is a good chance that your mind will turn to other things besides food.

Get something to do with your hands. Put together models, learn to knit, play solitaire, read that book that you have been putting off for ions, go for a walk.

Increase your water intake. Drink a glass of water 10 minutes before you give in to your desires to eat while emotionally charged. This will help you in two distinct ways. First it will fill you up a bit so if you do give in to your urges, you will naturally eat less and many times you will find that the few minutes that you concentrate on your glass of water, your thoughts drift away from food. Have you ever noticed that often when there is an emergency you will hear someone say "sit ", then they give them a glass of water? It's not that the actual glass of water will do anything for them, but for the few seconds that they are drinking the water, their mind gets diverted and it gives their body a time to relax a bit.

Emotional eating is a very hard habit to break but you can work on it little by little until it is manageable. If you feel as though you are totally out of control please consult a professional. There are many groups that can help and most are either free or have just a nominal charge or donation.
A good place to check is with your state health department or if you have health insurance contact your health insurance company. Emotional eating is hard to break on your own and there are many whom are willing to help you overcome it.

About the Author

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2007-03-03T16:32:00.000-05:00

Flight of Fancy...

Foreign Exchange Dress ($64.00 at zappos.com)

teardrop earrings ($6.50 at claires.com)

Devlyn by RSVP wedges ($84.95 at zappos.com)

Bird Cut Necklace ($6 at wetseal.com)

2007-02-12T23:21:00.000-05:00

West Coast Winter....

Stretch Twill Carpi Pant ($39.50 at Lanebryant.com)

Foil Bird Top ($34 at bandlu.com)

'Miztify' Wedges by Steven ($99.95 at zappos.com)

Teal 'Royal Palace' Large Tote by Baby Phat ($92.95 at zappos.com)

2007-02-08T18:27:00.000-05:00

Style Stealer: All Hail The Queen...

Semantics by Carlson Herringbone Trousers ($88 at nordstrom.com)

"Joyanne" Cape Top by Monif C ($75 at monifc.com)

Black Knit Cabby Hat ($14 at torrid.com)

Bayard Ankle Boot by Nine West ($99.95 at zappos.com)

2007-02-08T16:01:00.000-05:00

BREAKING NEWS:

CNN reports that former Lane Bryant Model and Reality TV star Anna Nicole Smith has passed away after collapsing at the Hard Rock Hotel & Casino in Hollywood, FL this afternoon.

My heart goes out to her family...

Please visit cnn.com for the full report and updates.

2007-02-08T15:27:00.000-05:00

LARGE and Totally Devoid of Class ....

Wow, Hollywood, bang up job disgracing the plus size community so far....

Never have I ever seen a more gross representation of a woman of size depicted on screen to date.

This character meets ALL the stereotypes that have ever existed about fat black women. How lovely.

Obviously this is one MOVIE I won't be seeing this year. Give me a break Eddie.

Is this what a future Oscar winner looks like?
Some fear 'Norbit' could hurt Murphy's Academy Award chances.

By Greg Braxton and Robert W. Welkos, Times Staff Writers

EDDIE Murphy's on the verge of an awards season trifecta — his charismatic portrayal of a tragic R&B singer in "Dreamgirls" has already nabbed him a Screen Actors Guild award and a Golden Globe, and he's considered a front-runner for a best supporting Oscar.

But the most high-profile image of Murphy these days — while Oscar ballots are still out — is on billboards and in movie trailers wearing a fat suit, garish eye shadow and little else.

The tagline for his new comedy, "Norbit," poses the question: "Have you ever made a really big mistake?"

Some Oscar observers are questioning the timing of the movie's Friday arrival, and whether it may unintentionally put off potential academy voters, while some black activists are taking Murphy to task for engaging in what they say are demeaning racial stereotypes.

"Every time I pass that billboard, it makes me sick," said one veteran Oscar consultant, who declined to be identified and is not involved in a rival campaign. "I think his performance in 'Dreamgirls' is so fabulous" and deserves to win the Academy Award. But, he added, Murphy's latest comedy offering "doesn't help."
Award season aside, Murphy and "Norbit" are under fire from some black activists who say the film is just the latest to build a movie around a black man dressing up as an unsophisticated, overweight black woman. Adding fuel to their anger is the movie's release during Black History Month....

Read more of this Los Angeles Times article at Latimes.com

2007-02-06T22:28:00.000-05:00

3 Quick Auto Repair Tips
by James C

Maintaining your car is a very important job. A well maintained car will last longer, perform better and get better gas mileage. Learn some quick tips to help you easily maintain your car.

1. Change the oil every 3000 miles or 3 months. This is the most important thing you can do to protect your car. If you cannot change it that often have your mechanic change your oil with synthetic oil. It lasts much longer and will allow you to go longer between oil changes.

2. Have your brakes checked as soon as they begin to squeal. If you replace them as soon as they become worn you will save your vehicle any further damage. If brake pads wear down too much they can damage your rotors or drums.

3. When your radiator reservoir becomes low add premixed antifreeze. You can now buy antifreeze premixed to the correct 50/50 ratio. It might seem like you are wasting money by paying for water but it will save you time and ensure that your vehicle receives the correct ratio of antifreeze to water. The right balance is important to protect your engine and provide proper cooling.

That's it for now. Remember a well maintained car will save you money in countless ways so take the time to take care of your car.

About the Author:

The author operates a website on finding an auto repair mechanic. Learn about auto repair and auto mechanics in your city.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=James_C

2007-02-06T21:13:00.000-05:00

Gig: Calling all Songbirds...

Essence Magazine And Berklee College Of Music Announce Their Second National Hip-Hop Songwriting Contest. Essence's Take Back the Music campaign, along with Boston's Berklee College of Music, are once again looking for the next generation of hip-hop stars. ESSENCE's Take Back the Music Campaign, an in-depth examination of the ways in which Black women are depicted in popular music and videos, was first announced in January 2005, and continues its effort to promote balance in mainstream hip-hop's messages as the two groups announce their second hip-hop songwriting contest. The contest deadline is March 9 and three winners will attend a high school music program at Berklee this summer, while runners up get a free course at Berkleemusic.com. Complete details are posted at www.ESSENCE.com and www.Berklee.edu.

"ESSENCE is pleased to partner with the Berklee College of Music once again to expose new voices in hip-hop that otherwise might not be heard, and give new talent the opportunity to develop through music education," said Angela Burt-Murray, Essence editor-in-chief.

The 10 finalist songs from last year's contest were posted on both www.ESSENCE.com and www.Berklee.edu, and were heard by more than a quarter of a million listeners. Two of last year's winners have also applied to the college for full-time study.

Students 15 to 18 who are unsigned songwriters and/or producers have until March 9, 2007, to submit their original songs. Five winners will be selected by a panel of hip-hop celebrity judges and Berklee music scholars: Chuck D (legendary rapper, co-founder of Public Enemy), Spinderella (former Salt-N-Pepa DJ, co-host of the syndicated classic hip-hop radio show The Backspin), Jean Grae (rapper, songwriter, producer), Berklee professors Susan Kean Cattaneo (songwriting), Prince Charles Alexander (music production and engineering), Danielle Scott (ensemble), and student Ryan Williamson (contemporary writing and production major, founder of Rykeyz Productions).

Judging will be based on clever, innovative lyrics, as well as melody and composition of songs. Three winners will be admitted into the 2007 Berklee Five-Week Summer Performance Program that immerses students in all aspects of performance, music theory, and the latest innovations in music technology, while electives focus on songwriting, music synthesis, and the music business. For complete contest rules and an entry form, visit essence.com/takebackthemusic or berklee.edu.

The contest includes: Grand Prize: Two winners will be admitted into the 2007 Berklee Five-Week Summer Performance Program and receive a full scholarship, including tuition and room and board (each valued at $6,480); Second Place: One winner will receive a tuition-only scholarship (valued at $3,895); Runners-Up: Two runners-up will each receive one online music course at BerkleeMusic.com (valued between $595 and $1,250)

--information as reported at gigslist.org.

2007-02-06T16:05:00.000-05:00

Who Loves Ya Baby?: 6 Cheap and Simple Buys to Keep You Feeling Sexy On Valentine's Day If You're Single ( or Not-So Single) ...

Apricot Brandy Dress ($44 at alight.com)

Pink Flock Heart Mesh Lace Trim Cheeky Short ($10 at torrid.com)

Petal Tops Heart Shaped Breast Covers ($6.95 at torrid.com)

'Love Songs' by Nat King Cole ($9.97 at amazon.com)

4 Peice Blue Boxed Chocolates by MarieBelle New York ( $12 at mariebelle.com)

Almond Cookie Sea Salt Body Scrub by Carol's Daughter ($24 at carolsdaughter.com)

2007-02-06T15:42:00.000-05:00

Best Motorcycle For A Woman

By Mike O'Gorman

The best motorcycle for a woman is dependent on your body and skill level. Women are as varied in terms of experience and stature as men.

What should you look for in a bike? Size and stature are one of the first things to consider. You want to be comfortable straddling and controlling your bike.

The weight and seat height of your bike are the two most important things to consider. It is not enjoyable or confidence inspiring to be riding a bike that is bigger and heavier than you are comfortable with.

Elena and I recently took a motorcycle safety foundation (MSF) basic rider course to see if we could further our riding level. The bikes used in the course were 250cc street cruisers. The Honda Rebel and Suzuki GZ250 were the bikes of choice. (The Rebel is also a 250cc bike.)

These bikes would provide a nice platform for your first bike. The benefits of these bikes include light weight, low seat height, and easy maneuverability. Elena felt very comfortable on the Suzuki. We even practiced picking the bike up off the ground, and she did it with ease (there is a trick to lifting a bike easily).

The thing that Elena really liked about these bikes is that they have the classic cruiser look (chrome and metal), yet they are light and easy to use for a beginner biker.

Additionally, these bikes are nearly bulletproof. The "mules" that we used in class were dropped and abused regularly. But they were surprisingly resilient.

The Honda and Suzuki bikes are also known for their reliability and low cost of ownership--real plusses if you don't want the hassle or cost of repairs.

The first bike that you buy is going to be a learning tool that will go through some ups and downs, so don't buy that super-special bike of your dreams for your first bike. Instead, buy one that will allow you to build confidence and improve your riding ability. The Honda Rebel and Suzuki GZ250 will provide the best balance of looks, reliability, and ease of use.

About the Author:

Want to learn about the best deals on motorcycle accessories? Written by a husband-and-wife biker team—and Elena's the world's best bargain shopper on-line—this site provides not only one-stop shopping for motorcycle accessories, but also helpful information about everything motorcycle. http://www.UltimateMotorcycleSite.com.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Mike_O'Gorman

2007-02-06T12:51:00.000-05:00

Chandra Wilson Scores BIG at Screen Actors Guild Awards

The rubenesque actress, looking every bit the "golden globe" in a sexy floor -skimming number, took home two SAG awards last week for Best Actress in A Drama Series and Best Ensemble in A TV Drama

And I Am Telling You -- SHE's not Going Nowhere! Especially when She's looking like THAT...

It's the year of the breast and Hollywood's newest It-Girl, Jennifer Hudson, is leading the pack.
The young actress/singer was the epitome of old Hollywood glam and sex appeal when she hypnotized the SAG crowd with a rhinestone encrusted gown that hugged her plentiful curves like melted chocolate.
The award winning Actress later took home a SAG statuette for her work in Dreamgirls to seal the deal.

I'm so glad that Jennifer's new fitness regimen enhanced her attributes rather than scaled her down over all. She's looking phenomenal!

The VERY Busy Schedule of a Plus Size It- Girl:

In stunning black velvet and satin at the Dreamgirls U.K. Premiere...

In a gold-etched floral print at the Dreamgirls Paris Premiere.

Looking ship-shape in a white sailor-like minidress at the AFI Awards.

Looking like a goddess in black knee-skimming satin at the National Board of Review Awards Gala...

In a hot pair of pirate booties signing autographs and getting ready to visit Dave Letterman at a taping of The Late Show...

Heating things up in a Greek inspired dress later at The Late Show ...

Posing for photographers at The Critics Circle Awards...

Looking mod in hip-hugging jeans at a taping of BET's 106 and Park...

With fashion loyalty, American Vogue Editor-at-Large Andre Leon Tally...

Go get him girl! Getting ready for Oscar at the 79th Academy Awards Nominees Luncheon...

Looking like a dream in black and white at the Dreamgirls state-side premiere....

Style Stealer: Get Jennifer's Red Hot Red Carpet Look for under $150 bucks...

Captivate by Size Appeal ($68 at size appeal.com)

Ivy by RSVP ($59.95 at zappos.com)

"Lucia" Party Clutch ($14.99 at payless.com)

2007-01-28T08:12:00.000-05:00

In A Pod...

Malachite Peapod Earrings by Rachel Sudlow Jewlery ($35 at Etsy.com)

Small Sea Oyster Necklace by Rachel Sudlow Jewlery ($37 at Etsy.com)

Olive Branch Earrings by Rachel Sudlow Jewlery ($25 at Etsy.com)

2007-01-26T22:32:00.001-05:00

Career Move - A Step By Step guide

By Keji Giwa

Most people die from the neck up at age 25 because they stop dreaming, some people are managing their dreams after age 25 because they have been busy making their dreams their reality.

A step at a time is progress

Today I will give you a quick summary of the 5 key steps you need to take in order to make a career move that will change your life for the best. You can get the full content from our website. Each step has been carefully thought out, tried and tested with phenomenal results. Take your time and digest it.

Step 1: For get your past mistakes. Forgive yourself because if you don’t, you will always be tied to your past and it will hinder you from making bold and life changing decisions for fear of repeating the same mistakes again. Learn from it and move on.

Step 2: Start with the end in mind. Discover what you want to achieve at each stage of your life and then work backwards from each stage. You can do this by mentally and spiritually seeing yourself achieving the things you want and then putting the puzzles together in reality through planning. Make sure it is a SMART- V Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time Bound and directly related to your Vision. Without vision, momentum becomes an aimless energy that eventually runs out.

Step 3: Run your own race & on your own track. Most people tend to measure their progress based on the progress of others. Our five fingers are not equal and they have different unique functions. One finger is not better than the other and the same applies to you and the next person. You have a better chance winning your own race and on your own track, compared to running someone else's race and on someone else's track.

Step 4: Celebrate your small and big wins. Encouraging yourself propels you forward. When you fail to celebrate you small wins, you fail to measure your progress. A progress report tells you where you are, what you have achieved and how far you have to go. It can be an amazing comfort and reassure when things get really difficult.

Step 5: Remember that you are in the people business. What’s in it for them? If you fail to understand the bigger picture, you will never find a your place in it. The world is made up of many other billions of people and if you what you have to offer does not involve meeting their needs, you cannot place a value on your service.

Regards,

Keji Giwa

About the Author:

Taken from the ‘How to get the career you want’ eworkshop. Click here to find out more about this eworkshop =>http://www.the7easysteps.com

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Keji_Giwa

2007-01-26T18:15:00.000-05:00

Cute n' Classic...

Romancing the Stone Top by Reya ($32 at alight.com)

Courtney Trousers ($46 at bandlu.com)

3 Ringstone Ring ($7.50 at claires.com)

Military Style French Jacket ($59.50 at lanebryant.com)

'Dione' in Bronze by Report ($175 at zappos.com)

2007-01-26T18:00:00.000-05:00

BabyDoll Babe...

Material World Dress by Blue Plate ($62 at alight.com)

Tinkerbell Knit Clutch by Bandamy ($54 at bandamy.com)

'Go up' by Naughty Monkey ($78.95 at zappos.com)

Rigid Boot Cut Jeans ($39.50 at lanebryant.com)

5 Row Goldtone Chain Necklace ($8 at wetseal.com)

2007-01-21T01:16:00.000-05:00

Vintage in Wine....

'St. Lucia' Handheld Shopper ($163.76 at zappos.com)

Sovereign Dress by B&Lu ($62 at bandlu.com)

Long Silver Pearl Necklace ($9.00 at zappos.com)

'Boxed In' by Kenneth Cole New York ($256.00 at zappos.com)

2007-01-18T17:18:00.000-05:00

SEENStealers...

L.L. Reps the Ripped Abs For Rachel Ray...

2007-01-18T16:24:00.000-05:00

What's Sexy...

How To Be A Good Kisser
by Michelle Penney

Here’s my list of the Top 5 Reasons that some kisses are super, while others end up duds.

1. Emotional connection.

If you kiss a guy or girl that you kind of like, then your kiss will be kind of nice. But if you kiss a guy or girl you REALLY like, then your kiss will be REALLY special. An emotional connection is crucial for an amazing kiss. When the physical pleasure of a kiss combines with the emotional pleasure of sharing an intimate moment, fireworks happen.

2. Great comfort level.

One of the great killers of the pleasure of kissing is nerves. The more nervous you are, the tenser you feel. Tension makes you stiff and unyielding – the complete opposite of what a great kisser should be! When you’re anxious about the result of a kiss or self-conscious about whether you’re doing it right, you won’t be able to enjoy the moment like you should. Worse, your tension will get communicated to your partner. Relax and flow in the moment.

3. Ability to forget the world.

The top kisses seem to go on forever. Your mind is clear of everything but your partner’s breath, responses, murmurs, and body against yours. But it can be hard to forget the world if you’re in a noisy environment, being jostled by other people, or are in an uncomfortable position. For example, despite their popularity as makeout locations, cars are notoriously uncomfortable places to kiss. Too, if you’re feeling self-conscious about your kissing technique or wondering if others are watching, you’ll bring yourself out of the moment and back to earth. Clear your head the next time you kiss and let nothing else matter.

4. Imagination.

Great kissers don’t just do what they do best; they adapt to their partner and experiment with different kinds of kisses. If your kissing repertoire consists of two styles – kiss and French kiss – then it may be time to explore the possibilities. Vary the pace and pressure of your kisses. Expand from the mouth and kiss the eyelids, neck, even nibble the ear. Be inventive.

5. Rhythm.

The best kisses have an ebb and flow. They start gently, become greedy, then allow a pause for breathing and meeting one another’s eyes. A kiss is sometimes called a dance of the lips, and it’s important to remember that kisses, like dances, must have a rhythm. Nothing is worse than someone who is so intent on kissing you that they don’t allow you room to breathe. Let your kiss find its natural rhythm. Allow it to warm up and eventually cool down. Always take time to reconnect with your partner through catching his or her eyes and breathing together.

If you really care about someone, are completely relaxed, there in the moment, and allow your kissing to find its natural rhythm and expression, you’ll find that your kisses become much more intense and enjoyable.

Did you know the most off putting thing to a partner is a bad or average kisser? Would you like to be a great kisser? Whether you’re a good kisser or not, learn more techniques here, your partner will thankyou for it!

http://www.kissing101net.blogspot.com

Happy kissing!

Michelle Penney

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2007-01-16T12:54:00.000-05:00

REAL Curvy Girls Rule The Red Carpet at 2007 Golden Globes!

Take that Simon Cowell!...

Former American Idol alumn and newly crowned Dreamgirl Jennifer Hudson took home a Best Supporting Actress win after beating out academy award winner Cate Blanchett among others at the 64th Annual Golden Globes Awards last night.

The illustrious award is the first Golden Globe for the curvy new starlett who has shot to stardom seemingly overnight with rave reviews by critics and audiences alike. The film Dreamgirls proved to be a dream come true for Hudson. The role of Effie was the young songbird's first ever in a motion picture.

Can we expect an Oscar nod anytime soon? Will more curvy beauties follow? Stay Tuned!

Ugly Betty Proves To Be A Beauty...

Ugly Betty's America Ferrera beats out Desperate Houswives' Marcia Cross and Felcity Huffman, Old Christine star Julia Louis Dreyfuss, and Weed's Mary Louise Parker for Best Actress In A Musical or Comedy TV Series win.

Congratulations America!

TV's Grey's Anatomy Showrunner Takes Home Globes Gold...

How's this for triple threat talent?

Gray's Anatomy Executive Producer, Writer and creator (that's right, EXECUTIVE PRODUCER, WRITER and CREATOR), Shonda Rhimes takes home the Best Drama TV Series win after beating out powerhouses 24 and Lost a second year in a row!

Grey's Anatomy is ABC/Disney's most highly rated program this season.

Shonda, YOU are McDreamy. Go on Girl!

And the "curviness" didn't stop there. Real women flanked the red carpet everywhere this year. Are plus size back in vogue? Hollywood seems to think so. ;) --Yasi

2007-01-13T00:00:00.000-05:00

Feeling Scentsational...

Adventurous, headstrong and unpredictable?

'Princess' by Vera Wang ($68 at sephora.com)

Traditionalist, exotic, and feminine?

'Gardenia' by Marc Jacobs ($65 at sephora.com)

Racy, intense and seductive?

Betsey Johnson by Betsey Johnson ($75 at sephora.com)

Bold, Powerful, Glamorous?

'Badgley Mischka' by Badgley Mischka ($90 at sephora.com)

2007-01-11T23:57:00.000-05:00

Season Must Have: The Shirt Dress

I rarely gush about an item, but this Shirtdress is brilliant invention. This quick, chic style will take you from drab to fab in 2 minutes flat depending on how you accessorize. Not only is it figure flattering, it is astoundingly appropriate for almost any situation. How many items in your closet can do that?!

Need something that's conservative enough to wear to the office, but comfortable enough for drinks afterwards? This hot little thing is sharp enough to impress your boss in the boardroom, and fierce enough to beguile that guy in Marketing you've been flirting with all week.

More ideas? Doll it up with sexy pumps, some neck bling and a clutch for a cute date look. Or, sport it out for a weekend with the girls by adding a sweater (tossed artfully over the shoulders), a pair of canvas sneaks, and a pageboy cap.

Don't you just love flexible style? ;)

--Sateen Shirtdress - Semantiks by Caslon ($98 at nordstrom.com)

2007-01-11T23:17:00.000-05:00

New Cute Kids On the Block...

Catwoman...

'Pounce' - Carlos by Carlos Santa ($105.95 at zappos.com)

Pretty Posh...

'Venice' by Mia ($61.60 at zappos.com)

Divine Dots...

'Talia' by Guess ($98.95 at zappos.com)

2007-01-05T16:00:00.000-05:00

Style Steal: Gwen Stefani...

Oversized Circle Plastic Lenses ($7.50 at wetseal.com)

'Medusa in Black' by Size Appeal ($41 at sizeappeal.com)

Black And White Zebra Print Button Earring ($6 at torrid.com)

'Carmin' by Steve Madden Zebra Pumps ($99.95 at zappos.com)

2007-01-05T01:25:00.000-05:00

"Why yes Carrie...there is a Santa Claus. And he probably knows the date of the next Jimmy Choo sample sale! "

2007-01-05T00:21:00.000-05:00

Yasi's Resolutions for 2007

1. Find a new job! Hey what can I say? I need to pay those student loans!
2. Get a new boyfriend. Because the old one is broken. Duh!
3. Get my new business off the ground. Where's a $100,000 grant when you need one?!
4. Finish my novel...Finally!
5. Go back to LA Weight Loss and get back on plan. Ahem. See resolution number 1 and 2. I'm a baked goods freak, and those healthy portions of Jimbo's cheesecake really didn't help either.
6. Fix my new car. Yep, I just inherited an old Accord from my sister! Uh... it needs some work.
7. Get back to Los Angeles to visit! I miss the city, and my good friend.
8. Cut down on my sugar intake. See resolution number 5.
9. Pitch a new show idea to a major network. My muse has a few things up her sleeve.
10. Get another apartment. This actually was last year's resolution. Round 2!

So there you have it. I showed you mine. Why not show me yours? ;) --Yasi

2007-01-04T20:10:00.000-05:00

What's New In Beauty: Fun Finds...

Gingerbread Man Lip Shine ($10 at philosophy.com)

Smells (AND tastes!) as good as it looks. Dab it on top of your favorite lip shade or slick it on solo for a sweet, healthy shimmer.

Even if your New Year's Resolutions bar your from indulging in that Chocolate Ganache until Valentine's Day, at least you can bathe in it.
It smells absolutely sinful, and oh so YUMMY!
I'm still waiting for the cheesecake version guys...

Philosophy Double Rich Chocolate 3-in-1 Shower Gel ($16 at philosophy.com)

Pretty bottle. Even prettier scent. Who would have thought notes like carmel creme brulee, wild rose and green apple would works so well together??

Juicy Couture by Juicy Couture ($85 at neimanmarcus.com)

I used these handy duds on a recent photo shoot and they were a lifesaver.
They were so easy to apply. Just a quick press and you're done! Perfect come hither lashes without all the fuss. And considering Lindsay Lohan paid about $300 for her falsies...they're a steal!

Wet n Wild 'Bat Your Eyes' Eyelashes ($1.99 at drugstores)

2007-01-04T17:16:00.000-05:00

Setting Successful New Year's Resolutions

by Wendy Betterini

It's almost that time of year again - New Year Resolutions! Millions of people around the world are vowing to lose weight, quit smoking, stick to a budget, and more. How many will actually follow through with these changes? Probably not many. Have you done this before? Have you made promises to yourself and not kept them? You are not alone. Why does it seem so easy to make changes in our lives, until we actually begin to do the work?

Change is hard. Most of us don't stop to think about that when we set goals. We start out filled with passion, fire and excitement. We feel invincible and know we can accomplish whatever we desire. We see the glorious outcome of our desires shining before us, and we are determined to make it happen. Then we begin to encounter obstacles along the way. We may struggle halfheartedly through a few of them, but eventually we find ourselves making excuses, procrastinating and losing interest in those same goals we were so excited about before. What happened?

Goal setting involves much more than making a promise to do something. We need to equip ourselves with the right tools and mindset to ensure our success. There are several things we need to think about before we set goals:

Why? - What is your reason for wanting this particular outcome? It's lofty to want to lose weight or quit smoking, but if you don't have a clear, strong reason for wanting to do so, you will have no passion to fuel your efforts. What will you gain by making these changes in your life? What will you gain by not making changes? Oh yes, you are gaining something by keeping your bad habits around, or else you would have gotten rid of them long before now. Understand that, and acknowledge it. Be honest with yourself. Be clear about what you really want. Let's say you want to quit smoking because you want to live a healthier life. Why? What will that do for you? It will improve your quality of life. Okay, why is that important to you? Keep asking yourself "why", until you get to the "meat" of your desire. Be sure you understand exactly why these goals are important to you, and write it down. You will want to read it over and over again, especially when you feel your resolve crumbling.

Action Goals vs. Results Goals - Most of us make the mistake of setting results-oriented goals, rather than action goals. This is an important distinction. Setting a goal to lose thirty pounds is not a goal at all. It is an outcome. The goal should be to exercise and eat right - which will result in the loss of weight. We need to treat the problem, not the symptom. Make a note of the outcome you want, and then make a list of the actions that will get you there. Then make the actions your goal. Be specific. Rather than setting a goal to "lose weight", decide how, when, how often, and for how long you will exercise each day. Decide what foods you will eat (or not eat), and how much of them. Set realistic and specific daily goals, and reward yourself when you accomplish them. Each day is an opportunity for victory.

Believe You Deserve It - Many of us struggle with low self-esteem, and feel we don't really deserve success. Unfortunately, if we don't believe we deserve it, we will resist it when it arrives. We may do this unconsciously by sabotaging our own efforts, or we may outright refuse to even try. We must first understand and then truly believe that we do deserve success and happiness. In addition, we must be consciously open to receiving it. We're so good at giving to others, but many of us won't accept help or blessings for ourselves. Be willing to believe that you deserve to be successful and happy. Then be willing to accept that success when it arrives. Give yourself the gift of better health, inner peace, more organization, a better job - whatever you are striving for in setting your goals. Affirm aloud to the universe each day, "I joyfully accept all of the abundance and success the universe has for me, NOW." Remember that the more abundance you have, the more you will be able to help others also.

Commitment - One of the greatest secrets of success is simply not giving up. When we look at successful people, they seem to have it so easy. What we usually don't see are the years of hard work, dedication and commitment that got them to where they are today. Many of them struggled through massive obstacles and setbacks, sometimes having to start all over again repeatedly. Are you that committed to your goals? Will you persevere no matter what? Make a promise to yourself that you will continue working toward your goals, even if you aren't seeing the progress you hoped for. Be willing to work hard and continue working hard, even when - especially when - the going gets rough. When obstacles arise, fuel your persistence with positive thoughts and keep moving forward. Let your determination glow hot and bright, and burn away all doubts and fears. Don't beat yourself up if you make mistakes, simply get up and begin moving forward again.

Patience - Forming new habits takes time and practice. The good news is that countless people have proven it can be done. If they can do it, you can do it too. Give it your best effort, but don't expect perfection from yourself. You may stumble and fall; you may grow weary of the battle. However, remember that anything worthwhile takes effort. Your goals and dreams are worth fighting for, no matter how fierce the battle, no matter how long it takes.

Most importantly, believe in yourself. Believe that you have the skills, ability and determination to make your dreams come true. That, above all else, will guarantee your success.

About the Author:

Wendy Betterini is a freelance writer specializing in self-improvement and personal development concepts. Visit her website, http://www.WingsForTheHeart.com for free articles on positive thinking, goal-setting, self-esteem, personal growth, and more.

2007-01-04T16:35:00.000-05:00

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2007-01-01T17:31:00.000-05:00

With Love,
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2006-12-29T15:56:00.000-05:00

IGIGI Clears Up Shape Confusion

Ever find the perfect outfit in your size and haul it home only to find out it's less flattering on your silhouette than it was on the rack in the store?

IGIGI's new 'MyShape' calculator, promises to nix the confusion in your shopping experience by helping you to identify the clothes that would best fit your figure.

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2006-12-29T14:51:00.000-05:00

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2006-12-29T14:12:00.000-05:00

It's New Years Eve... Do You Know Where Your Martinis Are?

By Jennie Willis

The party of the year is right around the corner and if we have learned anything over our past holiday experiences, avoiding the exuberant cost and chaos of restaurants and night clubs is an absolute. This only means however the party has shifted to the home and why not? With the right planning you can easily pull off the biggest party of the year without a sweat!

1. Invitations

A successful party begins with a proper invitation. The invitation process may take more time and possibly inflict a little more cost but it is a sure way to know the exact number of attending guests. Invitations also eliminate the party crashing folk that would otherwise be sure to arrive! You will also be much better prepared for food, drink, and transportation this way.

An invitation can be your best friend during these stressful occasions and they are not limited to paper. Who needs stamps when you can use your computer! Create your invitation on-line. There are several websites that will do all of the work for you. Simply create your invitation and e-mail it to all of your guests. It is wise to personally call your invitees to be sure they received the e-mail invite.

2. The Menu

When planning a cocktail party you absolutely have to have great food. This does not mean however that it all has to be prepared by you! Search for recipes in your favorite magazines or on-line and find the perfect hors d’oeuvres and petit fours for your party. Then all you have to do is attach these recipes to your invitations!! It's a brilliant idea to help take all of the pressure off of you the host.

When your guests prepare the food at home you have so much more time to focus on everything else. This idea works better than potluck because you are still in control of the party. You know what food will be attending so you can better prepare for it with appropriate serving utensils, toothpicks, napkins, and trays.

It is wise to take your plan even further by estimating the service time for your cold and hot dishes. Remember you may only have one refrigerator for you party so beware of the dishes that you choose to serve!

3. The Bar

Again another great way to take this party to another level is to specify in your invitations which alcohol or non-alcoholic beverages to bring. Martinis are the drink of choice these days so why not ask your guests to bring a bottle that will contribute to your cocktail recipes?!

Champagne or sparkling wine is an absolute must for New Years Eve party's so be sure to provide plenty of bubbles for the evening. Although bubble is fantastic on its own, spice it up with a splash of flavored liquor for a new experience. Such cocktails as Champagne cocktail, and Kir Royals make a perfectly festive treat for your guests.

Don't forget to have plenty of glassware and of course lots of prepared garnish for your New Years Eve cocktails!

Here are a few martini recipes to help get you started!

Cosmopolitan Martini

11/2oz Vodka
1/2 oz Triple sec
2 oz Cranberry juice
1 oz Lime juice or 2 fresh squeezed lime wedges

Pour into a martini Shaker over ice, Shake vigorously. Strain, Pour into a chilled martini glass, Shake to add ice chips No Ice (Up) Preferred* or over Ice (Rocks)

Garnish with lime or cranberries or both.

Lemon Drop Martini

2oz Lemon Vodka
1/2 oz Triple sec
4 - 8 squeezed lemons (Add used Lemons to tumbler)

Pour into a martini Shaker over ice, Shake vigorously Rim Martini Glass with Sugar
Strain, Pour into a chilled martini glass No Ice (Up) Preferred* or over Ice (Rocks)

Garnish with lemon twist.

Chocolate Martini

1 oz Vodka
1 oz Creme de cacao
Pour into a martini Shaker over ice, Shake vigorously. Strain, Pour into a chilled martini glass - No Ice (Up) Preferred* or over Ice (Rocks)

Garnish with cherries, cranberries or chocolate sprinkles.

Espresso Martini

1 oz Vodka
1 oz Kahlua or Coffee Liquor
1 Shot of Espresso
Pour into a martini Shaker over ice, Shake vigorously. Strain, Pour into a chilled martini glass - No Ice (Up) Preferred* or over Ice (Rocks)

Garnish with 3 Espresso beans.

Champagne Cocktail

3/4 oz Brandy
1 sugar cube
Fill remainder of glass with Champagne or Sparkling Wine

Garnish with lemon twist

Kir Royal
3/4 oz Cassis Liquor
Fill remainder of glass with Champagne or Sparkling Wine
Garnish with lemon twist

When you include your guests in the party planning process you can be sure to have all the time and the energy to pull off all the stops. For more helpful tips and recipes visit our site!

About the Author:

Jennie Wills is a hospitality expert with over ten years experience. Visit http://www.thesexykitchen.com/martini_madness.html for more unique cocktail recipes and party planning tips!

http://www.thesexykitchen.com

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2006-12-12T21:50:00.000-05:00

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2006-12-05T08:32:00.000-05:00

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2006-12-05T08:14:00.000-05:00

5 Steps to a Beautiful Bedroom

By Lauren Sia Teh

1. Know your Bed.

It's the centerpiece of your bedroom, and deserves to be treated as such. This means making it the focal point of your room, yes, but also that you should make it as comfortable and inviting as possible.

Consider what the best size of bed is for you. If you sleep alone, you might want to go beyond a Twin (or Single) bed and invest in a Double (or Full) bed- it's 15-inches wider. If space and budget allows, a Queen-sized bed will give you 6-inches more!

If you share the bed, a King-sized mattress might be the best option for you. A Standard King (also called an Eastern King) is about 18-inches wider than a Queen, making it the widest mattress size of all. A California (or Western King) is 12-inches wider than a Queen and 4-inches longer.

Be careful when buying bedsheets, and make sure you purchase the right size. You need to be extra careful with fitted sheets, which are cut to fit exact sizes.

2. Create a bedroom that meets your needs.

What do you do in your bedroom? Most of us do much more than just sleep in our bedrooms. We dress, read, do yoga, fix our hair, and more. It's important to keep these things in mind when decorating your bedroom.

If you're a little short on closet space, for example, it might be a good idea to invest in a roomy dresser or armoire with large drawers. Like to read in bed? Purchase a set of sturdy night tables to keep your favorite books close at hand.

3. Don't underestimate the power of lighting.

Lighting is one of the most powerful things you can use when decorating the bedroom of your dreams. Nothing can set a romantic, relaxing or soothing ambience more than proper lighting.

Because it's a bedroom, you probably want to steer clear of too-harsh lighting (making that bright fluorescent bulb a no-no!) Some good and solid (you don't need to go with frilly if that's not your style) table lamps may be all you need on your bedside tables, plus one or two floor lamps near an armchair to light your reading.

4. Cut the Clutter.

I know, I know...it's easier said than done. But this is probably the single most important thing you can do for your bedroom (actually for your entire home!) The reason why so many of us love traveling and staying in five-star hotels is because of the lack of clutter they offer.

Get a couple of empty boxes, and be ruthless with your things. Send some things to the junkyard, have a garage sale with a bunch of friends, or donate it all to Goodwill. Then you can exhale.

5. Be bold. Be yourself.

Don't feel you have to stick to any sort of cookie-cutter formula when decorating your bedroom. Your side tables don't have to match. You don't need to coordinate your curtains to your duvet cover. Instead, close your eyes and picture where you want to be when you turn in for the night...and decorate accordingly.

The best thing about decorating is that you can do it again. And again...and again.

About the Author:

Lauren believes that knowledge is power. Learn more about beautifying your home by reading her other decorating tips featured at Decorate for Less.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Lauren_Sia_Teh

2006-12-01T13:00:00.000-05:00

Jean Paul Gaultier's Size 28 Runway Model Talks to Entertainment Tonight....

Plus-Size Velvet's Eating Disorder Past

VELVET d'AMOUR is the plus-sized model who made waves and international headlines last month when she walked the runway at JEAN-PAUL GAULTIER's fashion show in lacy black lingerie.

Now, our KEVIN FRAZIER is in Paris as Velvet shows him how she makes big women beautiful and how she's hoping to change the perception of beauty.

"If I'm fat [or] if I'm thin, I feel like I'm beautiful," Velvet tells Kevin. "I think that is more about confidence than how one looks physically."

But Velvet wasn't always so accepting of her body. When she was a teen, Velvet had tried modeling in the States, but even at a svelte 120 pounds, agents told her she was too big.

"In order to stay thin, one avoided eating for all necessity," she tells Kevin. "I would have jello, and I would mix it with hot water, and I would drink it before it was set so that I would feel a sensation of being full, when I was quite hungry, in fact."

But it didn't quite work like she expected. "I was literally so hungry that I was obsessed by food," she says.

"There was a time when I very much hated my body, when I started gaining weight after I had tried so very much to lose weight," she explains. "In that cycle I would starve myself to death and i would eat tons of food."

But now, Velvet has a healthier body image and confidence to spare, and it's something she exudes for photographer PASCAL BOISSIER as she poses for a photo shoot. This confidence is something she hopes to inspire in other plus-sized models.

"Twenty-eight," she says matter-of-factly when asked her size. "Not a size 20 as has been purported on the Internet. Clearly, if you weigh near 300 pounds, you're not a size 20."

While she does model now, Velvet began as a photographer, and that remains her first love. Kevin caught up with Velvet to watch her work behind the camera as she shot photos of three "BBWs" -- "Big Beautiful Women." And she doesn't shy away from the sexy shots with her plus-sized models.

"I think part of what is powerful is sexuality and being sexy and feeling sexy," she says.

Velvet has found the positive in being big instead of the negative of not being stick thin. "If you want to spend your life hating yourself and being with people who don't like you, that's an option," she says. "But certainly you have the option to love yourself and to live in the moment."

Article Courtesy of ETonline.com

2006-12-01T07:48:00.000-05:00

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2006-12-01T07:24:00.000-05:00

Top 12 Exercises To Get a Tight Booty!

By Jeanette Jenkins

Do you want to get a tight tush like J.Lo or a bootylicious back side like Beyonce? Let it be known that these women have great assets because they work for them. Even Latifah loves her new booty that she developed from doing booty specific exercises. I have watched many women transform their back sides by doing booty specific exercises and following a healthy meal plan. If you want to create a Bikini Bottom like Cameron Diaz then do these exercises 3 times a week!

These are the most effective exercises that I always include in a workout designed to tighten your tush:

Standing Exercises 1-2 sets, 15-25 reps

1) Single Leg Squats - bodyweight: Start standing with feet hip distance apart. Lift your left foot 1inch off of the floor and put all of your bodyweight onto your right leg. Send your hips back as if you were going to sit into a chair. Make sure your right knee does not push over your right toe. Drive through your right heel, carrying all of your weight on your right leg and squeeze your right tush at the top. Repeat for 15-25 reps and then do the other leg.

2) Reverse Lunges - 3lb-8lb dumbbells: Start standing wit feet hip distance apart. Step back 3-4 feet with your right leg and land on the ball of your right foot. Lower your right knee towards the floor until your left thigh is parallel to the floor. Drive through your left heel, carrying all of your weight on your left leg and return your standing position squeezing your left tush. Repeat 15-25 reps and then do the other leg.

3) Squats - 5lb-10lb dumbbells: Place dumbbells on your shoulders and start standing with feet shoulder width apart. Send your hips back as if you are going to sit in a chair. Go as low as you can without pushing your knees over your toes. Push back up to a standing position by driving through your heels and your hips and then squeeze your booty when you get to the top. Repeat for 15-25 reps.

4) Side Kicks, Round House Kicks and Back Kicks - Do 15-25 reps of each kick. If you are a beginner then I recommend that you ask a kickboxing instructor to teach you how to safely execute these kicks with good form and technique.

Floor Exercises 1-2 sets, 15-25 reps

1) Back Kicks on all fours - Start on a mat on your hands and knees. Pull your abdominals in tight to support your back then push your right leg towards the ceiling, creating a 45 degree angle. Squeeze your buttocks when your leg is fully extended and then return your knee to directly under your hip. Repeat this movement for 15-25 reps and then switch to the other leg.

2) Fire Hydrant on all fours- Start on a mat on your hands and knees. Pull your abdominals in tight to support your lower back and lift your right knee out to the side like a dog lifting there leg to go to the bathroom. Squeeze the outside of your buttocks and then lower your leg. Repeat this movement 15-25 reps and then switch to the other leg.

3) Shoulder bridge butt squeezes - Start on your back with arms facing down on the ground, knees bent and feet placed about one foot in front of your knees. Drive your hips into the air by pushing through your heels and squeeze your buttocks. Lower your hips about two inches and then press back up squeezing your buttocks. Repeat this motion for 15-25 reps

4) Single leg shoulder bridge butt squeezes - Use the same form as the regular shoulder bridge above except on slight change. Lift your left foot 2 inches off of the ground and balance all of your weight on the right leg, squeezing the right buttocks each time you lift the hips. Repeat for 15-25 reps then change legs.

Cardio Exercises 20-45 minutes

1) Hiking or Treadmill Walking on an Incline of 5.0-10.0
2) Climbing Stairs or Stair climber Machine
3) Ice Skating, Rollerblading or Skating Machine
4) Jogging or 5 sets of 30-90 second Sprint Intervals with 2-3 minutes of recovery

I have designed a twenty minute Butt and Thigh Blast Workout DVD specifically designed to tighten your tush and it has been hailed by many as their favorite workout. To check out "The Hollywood Trainer Butt and Thigh Blast Workout" that includes all of the standing and floor exercises listed above go to www.thehollywoodtrainer.com .

About the Author:

Jeanette Jenkins, founder and president of The Hollywood Trainer(tm), is a Nike Elite Athlete and the official spokesperson for BET Foundation's "A Healthy BET." Her expertise as a fitness and nutritional consultant has been featured on Oprah.com, The Tonight Show with Jay Leno, Extra, Access Hollywood, MSNBC.com, EDiets.com, ivillage.com, The Tyra Banks Show, the Food Network, VH1, and on the BET network. Her work has been profiled in People, O Magazine, InStyle, Fitness, Shape, Self, Redbook, Glamour, CosmoStyle, and Essence, among other magazines. She writes regular columns for the Los Angeles Daily News, Urban Influence Magazine, Precious Times and MSNBC.com just to name a few. She has worked with many celebrities including Queen Latifah, actress Taryn Manning, swimsuit model Amy Weber, and several NFL and NBA athletes. Jenkins studied human kinetics at the University of Ottawa, Canada, and holds more than seventeen international certifications covering nutrition and various fitness training methods. http://www.thehollywoodtrianer.com

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jeanette_Jenkins

2006-12-01T07:04:00.000-05:00

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2006-11-30T11:56:00.000-05:00

Look As Great As You Feel In Plus Size Sexy Lingerie

by Peter Crump

Many oversize women don't realize that today's market offers just as much in plus size sexy lingerie as it does in petite sizes - you just have to know where to look. In fact, plus size sexy lingerie is no further than away than your computer. For an array of plus size sexy lingerie the best place to shop is online. Here you can choose from a wide variety of sizes to suit your needs.

Silk Print Pucci Baby Doll ($34.95 at hipsandcurves.com)

Of course you do have the option of shopping at your local mall or your local boutique, but the selection that they carry in plus size sexy clothing is usually very limited and the prices very high. They are not geared for the woman that's pleasingly plump, but rather for what society thinks is the norm - very small and very thin.

In the meantime, there are very many women out there that don't fit this criteria, and are proud that they don't. They have the wants and the need to feel just as sexy as the Twiggy's of this world.

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If you shop online, you will find a wide array of sexy clothing not only in lingerie, but in any thing else your heart desires. You will find that practicality and playfulness is combined in the designs to fill that want of feeling special. From a lift in the bust to a trimmer behind, some of this plus size sexy lingerie is a work of art and most of the fabrics on today's market are truly effective and extremely comfortable.

The prices of the plus size sexy clothing are really affordable and plus size sexy lingerie comes in such a variety that you can buy the basics in plus size lingerie or indulge yourself in luxurious silks. Whatever your fantasies are, they can be fulfilled with the choices of sexy lingerie that are offered.

If you're looking for plus size sexy lingerie it has never been easier to find. Even though there are a greater amount of obstacles that larger women encounter when looking for any plus size in anything, you will find that once you go online the world is at your feet and you can shop at your own leisure. Take time to stroll through the pages and see just how beautiful the sexy lingerie is.

Southern Belle ($64.95 at hipsandcurves.com)

No matter what your idea is of what you want it is there for you and in any fabric that your heart desires. You can be that woman on the front page of any magazine. Plus size sexy lingerie is swamping the online market and the best part is you don't even have to leave your home to enjoy its benefits, Start a new trend and invite your friends to go shopping for sexy clothing with you - online. Your husband will probably be willing to help you shop for this kind of clothing.

Plus size sexy lingerie, indulge yourself.

About the Author:
For a website totally devoted to Plus Size Clothing visit Peter's Website Plus Size Clothing Ideas and find out about Plus Size Sexy Lingerie as well as Plus Size Swimwear and more, including Plus Size Bras, Plus Size Dresses, Maternity Wear, Wedding Gowns and Shoes.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Peter_Crump

2006-11-29T16:22:00.000-05:00

How to Beat Your Winter Skin Blues

By Livia Mercer

With the onset of autumn and winter fast approaching, a lot of us are experiencing dry or drier skin. Our initial reaction can be to rush out and buy a heavier or more emollient moisturiser. While in some cases this is needed, for the most of us that is not the case.

Why do I say that?

To start with let me explain what a moisturiser is and isn't. The word moisturiser is actually quite misleading as it does not add any moisture to the skin. As we age our skin gets thinner allowing moisture to escape. The moisturiser simply acts as a barrier, prevents this water loss and helps maintain existing moisture levels in the skin.

So how do we keep and maintain baby soft and comfortable skin during winter?

Here are a few recommendations to go by:

1) Only use very Gentle Cleansers and Scrubs.

Sometimes our tendency is to scrub those dead skin cells away as fast as we can. This however can do a lot of damage to the skin. Rather try an exfoliating lotion like Clinique Clarifying Moisture Lotion or Shiseido Bio-performance Intensive Clarifying Essence. These chemically exfoliate the skin without harsh granules to scratch or irritate the skin.

2) Use water-rich products rather than oil-rich.

Sometimes all the skin really needs is literally water or moisture rather than oils in the form of a moisturiser. Especially if you are in a particularly drying environment such as air-conditioning, high winds, flying or extreme cold. In this case make sure your skin is moist before applying your moisturiser.

There are some great spitzes on the market that really hydrate the skin such as:

House of Herbs Organic Rose Hydrating Mist, Claudalie Grape Water, Shiseido The Skin Care Soothing Spray. Clinique also have a whole range called Moisture Surge and it contains a gel-cream, eye gel and a face spray. These are all great to stop your skin from dehydrating. Personally I always carry a small bottle of face spray with me in my handbag, because most of these sprays you can use over the top of your makeup. So use them throughout the day, whenever you feel the need to.

3) Remember the skin south of your neck too.

During winter, dry scaly skin on your legs, knees and elbows is not uncommon. A great way to solve this for me is to pour body oil in my bathwater. You don't need much - the same amount as if you would be applying it directly to your skin but it's the lazy person's way of making sure your whole body is covered in oil. Also pure olive oil is fantastic, especially for the elbows and knees. Joan Collins recommends this.

4) Keep your lips and eyes well maintained.

As both these areas have thinner skin and fewer lipids in the skin than the rest of the face, it is vitally important to look after them well. Not by applying heavy creams as this will only block the pores and cause milia and other problems but by using products that will retain the moisture levels.

5) Remember your hair.

Hair takes a lot of beating through the colder months. In summer it's the sun, salt and chlorinated water, in winter it's the hairdryer and the cold. Apply regular hair masks or oils. I love Unrefined Coconut Oil in my hair but some prefer olive oil. Whatever it is you like to use make sure you do it regularly.

Following these suggestions, not only will your skin beat the winter blues but you will also develop great skincare routines that you will take with you into next summer.

About the Author:

Livia Mercer is the creator of The Beauty Review. A FREE monthly online magazine for women who love beauty and cosmetics and want REAL product reviews by REAL women. For a free, subscription, visit: http://www.thebeautyreview.com.au

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Livia_Mercer

2006-11-29T14:21:00.000-05:00

Diamonds and Denim

By Sam Serio

It may come as a shock to those of us with more traditional tastes, but the elusive ideal of "class" can be achieved through unusual ensembles - such as those which combine diamonds and denim. In fact, you don't have to wear purely expensive stuff to look classy. You can be creative and quirky and at the same time show sophistication.

Stephen Dweck Pear Shape Diamond and Topaz Necklace ($150 a month a bagborroworsteal.com)

Diamonds and denim? Seriously? Yes, indeed! It may seem a little far-fetchedfor the more conventional of us, but this unique combination of high society and working class fashion brings out a grand mix of glamour and grit. As a diamond symbolizes the woman's finesse and nobler aspirations, denim represents the everyday woman's readiness to get "down and dirty," and to get her dainty yet strong hands soiled, should the need arise.

The dark colors of most articles of clothing made of denim are accentuated by the light caught in the facets of diamond jewelry. And even if denim items are washed into lighter colors, the stark bright flashes of diamond only serve to enhance the lightly feminine colors upon the rough fabric. In fact you can mix and match diamonds with basically any other fabric - diamonds and silk, diamonds and lace, diamonds and satin. Just as the diamond looks good with any metal base, when it is used on jewelry, the clarity inherent in the diamond ensures that it will look good with any sort of apparel.

But the diamonds and denim combination comes with a unique appeal. It brings out the dual nature of the woman: strength and delicacy, roughness and gentleness. This combination works for intense, down-to-earth women who won't compromise their style, and yet are open to displaying their more sensitive sides.

Another thing represented by denim is recumbence, the utterly casual, relaxed look. Denim, after all, is barred from most coat-and-tie establishments, and other gatherings that require tight dresses and un-flashy attire - in other words, events and places that require you to be uptight. On the other hand, diamonds are not frequently spotted in rough-and-tumble places and events, such as monster truck rallies, outdoor picnics and mosh pits. But why deny yourself the opportunity to create a pleasing blend of these two contrasting atmospheres?

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It is when a woman deviates from the norm that she is best able to express her individuality and creativity.

And if you don't believe me, you can always ask exquisitely fashionable creatures like Sela Ward, Alexis Bledel and Sports Illustrated model Melissa Keller. They both once attended the Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week in 2004, hosted by Judith Ripka and Cotton Incorporated, wearing their favorite jeans and accessorized by elegant diamond jewelry. If you wish to bring out your more unconventional "classy" side, go for diamonds and denim!

About the Author:

Sam Serio is an Internet Marketer, musician, and writer on the subject of jewelry and gemstones. For more information on jewelry and gemstones, we cordially invite you to visit http://www.morninglightjewelry.com to pick up your FREE copy of How To Buy Jewelry And Gemstones Without Being Ripped Off. This concise, informative special report reveals almost everything you ever wanted to know about jewelry and gemstones, but were afraid to ask. Get your FREE report at http://www.morninglightjewelry.com Also includes informative articles, comparison shopping, rare book excerpts, & link directory.

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2006-11-29T13:12:00.000-05:00

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2006-11-25T22:30:00.000-05:00

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How to Break a Bad Habit: 5 Powerful Tips

By James Malone

How to break a bad habit is a topic that puzzles many people. Very often we persist in behaviors that can have negative and sometimes life-threatening consequences, yet like the Energizer Bunny, you just keep on going and going and going...

For starters, it is helpful to consider what is meant by habit. Our friend Webster defines it as "a customary behavior pattern." What is also known is that thought, feeling and action can be broken down into two broad categories, conscious and subconscious.

The conscious mind refers to the part of the self that is critical and analytical; it thinks and it reasons. This is the part of the self that recognizes that whatever rewards or satisfaction are being derived from the problem behavior are outweighed by its consequences.

Your subconscious mind refers to the part of the self that is habitual and automatic, it does not think or reason it simply responds in the way that it has been conditioned to do. Most habits are benign and even useful like brushing your teeth, automatically using a turn signal when driving and so on. Yet habits can also be horribly destructive such as in the case of those persons who continue to use alcohol and drugs in a destructive fashion even when the negative results are obvious.

So is there anything that can be done? Sometimes it is necessary to get outside help, especially if the situation poses an imminent health and safety. Yet whether you get professional assistance or not, here a five tips you may find helpful.

Expect it to feel strange at first when you stop. Try this experiment. Lace your fingers together and notice which thumb rests on top-the right or left one. Now separate them and intentionally re-clasp with the opposite thumb on top. Feels strange, right? Any change good or bad will feel awkward at first-it usually takes about a month for it to feel normal for you.

Get past the notion of helplessness. It is a popular view that many problem behaviors are lifelong and uncontrollable, yet the science behind this notion is poor at best. Quite a few people for example, drink alcohol heavily during their college years and then go on to discontinue this unhealthy behavior as the responsibilities of work and family take on more prominent roles. Believe it or not the most successful method of getting past a problem behavior is simply deciding to stop. Expect to evolve.

See the behavior in the total context of your life. Remember the Rolling Stones song about "I can't get no, SATISFACTION!" Is it that you are an "addict" or that you are simply unhappy with your life in general? Public health data tells us that while 10% of doctors and lawyers smoke, over 60% of waitresses are smokers. The former group probably tends to find life more satisfying than the latter. What active steps would you have to take to improve your personal, professional and spiritual life? The drinking/smoking/drugging/overeating is certainly not getting the job done!

Intentionally remove the cues of the old behavior. Although we scarcely recognize it, most of our actions follow a predictable sequence of events, where a stimulus provokes an unconscious reaction. Do you drink to excess with a certain group of people? Stop hanging out with them!

Remember you are worth it! You may feel ashamed of yourself because of your past behaviors. This can set a trap where you don't feel worthy of a better life, which in turn causes you to dull this pain with the habit that has complicated your existence. Consider accepting this idea. You are worthwhile simply because you were born a child to human parents. There has never been anyone quite like you in the past, nor will there be another person exactly like you in the future. There is a reason that you are here right now-find it.

Could you use some extra help in taking back control of your life? Want to give that bad habit of yours the bum's rush? The Power of Positive Habits is like having your own personal guide to the powers of the inner mind-sort of like a Sherpa of the Subconscious!

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2006-11-25T22:02:00.000-05:00

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