Observation: Dating is Too Hard

I've been on the cursed Match.com for what's going on three months now. This is my second run in a year. The first was at the very beginning of the year. I took my profile down relatively early because I realized I just wasn't ready to get serious. Well, now I am. I've opened myself up to dating, and I think I'm a little more open minded than last time. Problem is, not much has been working. I think I'm sort of in a dating vacuum. All the guys I connect with all have problems of some kind. It's weird. Case in point-- I met this decent guy on Match a few weeks ago. Wasn't at all attracted to him at first, but he grew on me. Three incredible dates later, when I ask him how he thinks with us are developing, he tells me that he's still sort of seeing his Ex-girlfriend. I'm like--Whaa? Totally taken for a loop. So, of course, I'm upset and tell him that if he wants to date me, he's going to have to stop seeing his Ex. Well, this guy, this seemingly sweet, intelligent, well-travelled guy tells me that though he'd planned on moving on to a future with me, that his job might be relocating him overseas, and he would need to cut his losses (i.e. end things). Supposedly this had been one of the reasons why he hadn't ended things completely with his ex. He didn't want to start up anything new with someone else. Why wasn't I told this from the beginning? It sure would have made things easier. Oh well-back to the drawing board. Maybe I'm just naive. I'd like to believe in love and romance--really I would, but I'm skeptical and dating is just so much work. Too much work than I really have time for these days. Hmm...hope that doesn't mean I'm going to be an old maid. Anyone else know what I'm talking about here?

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